what actually happens to my physical remains is of zero interest to me. i don't want anybody seeing my body. i don't want anybody -- i don't want a party. reported dead. unless they can provide entertainment value in a perverse or subversive way. i mean, if you could throw me into a wood chirp, spray me into har rod's in the middle of the rush hour, that would be pretty epic. i wouldn't being mind being remembered in that way. ♪ one, two, three four five six ♪ ♪ ♪ with the radio on ♪ ♪ i'm in love with massachusetts ♪ ♪ and the neon when it's cold outside ♪ ♪ and the highway when it's late at night ♪ ♪ with the radio on ♪ >> what the [ muted ] am i doing here? i shall explain. one minute i was standing next though a deep fryer. the next, i was watching the sunset over the sahara. i realize that one thing led directly to the other. had i not taken a dead-end dish washing job, i would not have become a cook. had i not become a cook, i would never have become a chef. had i not become a chef, i never would have been able to [ muted ] up so spectacularly. had i not known what it was like to really [ muted ] up, that that that obnoxiously wildly memoir i wrote wouldn't be half as interesting. ♪ >> and i'm not going to tell you how to live your life. i'm just saying, i guess, that i got very lucky. ♪ ♪ >> you are probably going to find out about it anyway. here a little preemptive truth telling. there is no happy ending. >> all around -- >> it's just on the news not a very nice way, i know, tony. >> thanks. >> what would you like? >> apple juice. >> apple juice. >> apple juice. >> or cranberry, whatever we have more of. happiness is a fresh pack. first thing in the morning. i mean, before i brush my teeth i mean, i roll out of bed, light a cigarette, stumble into this room and i start writing immediately. i always use language to get out of trouble. you know, i found at an early age if i made everybody in the class laugh, that was power. i came from a household with a lot of books. and in fact the first book i remember reading was a book called "why johnny can't read," which i stole from my mother? she was anticipating i would have difficulty reading as i was exhibiting anti-social tendencies, i pinched the book and basically taught myself to read by kindergarten. and then, you know, my early heroes were musicians and writers. the idea that you could have adventures and anti-social and make them legitimate by writing something beautiful about them. that concept took an early hold on me. i wasn't serious enough about anything to actually do any writing until '93. but when i was given the opportunity i did it and, you know, kept doing it. the whole business fills me with terror, frankly. >> hey. we know each other by now. >> yeah. >> let me see if rocco is up front. >> what was it about tony with big knives? >> they were never sharp enough. when he came over for thinking of thanksgiving i was going to carve the turkey and he took over. thanksgiving i was going to carve the turkey and he took over. he was very short with me about how i wasn't taking care of my knives. >> saw you when you were just born. do you remember that? >> my relationship with tony has always been as a writer. he was such a powerful writer right from the start. >> he was on business in tokyo for the first time. and he was writing me a series of emails. he did one of those bursts. >> the jet lag wouldn't let me sleep, so i crashed late and rose early, plunging blindly down dark streets at all hours. the streets unbelievably dense with pedestrians, people hanging around, flashing neon, flapping banners. screaming signs, with pimpy young men. asian women in thigh-high boots and no one i mean no one would meet my eye with the direct gaze. i was the quiet american, hungry american, ghost, searching and searching for whatever came next. >> i loved it. i loved it, and my wife karen who was a book publisher was in the living room breast feeding the baby. i printed out the email and i went, karen, you have to read this. >> am i allowed to curse? does anybody curse when they are on this? i read it and i just went, that is awesome. i was, like, okay, i'm going to make him an offer that he basically can't refuse. he came back and we sat down. i said joel tells me you have a lot of stories. and he goes i have so many stories i'm so excited to tell them. he said i already have a title it. what's the title and he said "kitchen confidential." >> what do you think about tony bourdain anyway? >> what do you think about that guy? he is cool, huh [ baby cry ]. >> i don't think tony was afraid of failure. and that was hard wired. he was the kind person who thought, well, you know what the [ bleep ] let's just try it and see how it turns out. >> anthony bourdain worked as a chef for 28 years reveals surprising and disturbing trade secrets in a book called "kitchen confidential." >> chef anthony says the truth about bread in a restaurant, how you should prepare meat when you order it and the truth about fish that make you sick. >> i was in a cranky mood after my last restaurant closed and felt no reason not to tell the truth about a business i both love and have mixed emotions about. >> "kitchen confidential" is a memoir of tony's life in the kitchen and the salty adventures that he had with his cooks. it was kind of lawless. you know, a lot was broken as tony used to say. >> as the executive chef at la'el, he found success in a full blown heroin addict at an early age. >> i had a dope problem, a cocaine problem. by '88 i pretty much cleaned up my act. the dietary supplement that every chef needs, i take around ten of these a day. it's of an aspirin tylenol mix. called crunchies. >> so you didn't fire him? >> i didn't fire him. i didn't know it was being written. i didn't know it was going to be published. one day i arrived at the restaurant and i said what happened? you're [ muted ] kidding me. >> i was told today i guess the 12th of this month it will be number 7 on the "times" best-seller list. >> it was on 20 wasn't it. >> i'm getting congratulatory calls and telling me i have a best seller. it's scary. >> very exciting. it's wonderful. >> yeah, it's just anything that happens to me on that door i'm suspicious of. >> he was always behind in the rent, always behind his you know payments and living from paycheck to paycheck. like in a pressure cooker. so when there was this opportunity, he was ready. >> announcer: this cnn film, "roadrunner: a film about anthony bourdain." brought to you by expedia, made to travel. as an expedia member you earn points on your travels, brought to you by expedia, made to travel. ," brought to you by expedia, made to travel. by expedia, made to travel. of i so you can go and see... or taste or do absolutely nothing with all those bubbles. without ever wondering if you're getting the most out of your trip. because you are. making a home means making decisions. lots of them. so, we promise to be here, with prices you'll love, seasons change, but our lowe's price prose it. is everyday. shop fall at lowe's today. psst psst. 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[ applause ] you know, all the tv chefs are so cuddly and adorable. maybe i'm the anti-or something. you know, i don't know. >> for me it happened overnight. i mean, one minute i was a cook at restaurant and not a particularly great one. and the next i was an author and was literally overnight. fell in my lap. >> i'm selling books now. >> with me now is anthony bourdain author of kitchen confidential. >> chef anthony bourdain. >> here is anthony bourdain. [ cheers ] >> what do you think about these guys like emerald lagasi on the food network? >> you're asking me to kick santa claus in the crotch on television. >> apparently brad pitt will be playing me in a movie. >> it's tomorrow. >> oprah. >> no! you're kidding me. >> this is anthony bourdain. his book "kitchen confidential" is a "new york times" best seller. >> i was born to cook. i love satisfying people's appetites. next i'll be doing lambata with emerald ♪ >> oh. >> i hate myself.♪ >> oh. >> i hate myself. ♪ ♪ >> oh. oh. tony bourdain rocks. what's up, man? everything good? >> life is good. >> yes, yes, yes. >> come here, girl. get in here. how are you doing? this is tony. tony welcome we're having a good time. >> the next one, no i'm doing something called the cook's tour basically i travel around the world eating exotic food having adventures in the far east, and africa and south america with a crew chasing me. >> hey, john, come here. >> you know, my 15 minutes of quote, unquote, fame, you know when that's over, i will be perfectly comfortable with that. if not relieved. i think even relieved at this point. >> when i met him for the first time, he had made a splash with "kitchen confidential." i had read that he had a contract to write a second book called the tour -- "a cook's tour." and i called him. >> yes. >> and i said, hey i'm a producer. would you ever consider making "a cook's tour" into a series? and he was like, whatever, yeah, sure. he was very nonplussed about the idea of doing anything on television. it was not what was on his mind. a week and a half later chris collins and i went up to la' e will. >> we found tony shot a demo with him and had a conversation with him. >> and it became immediately clear he had never traveled. >> his travels were in his head. >> growing up as a kid, you know, i watched "the crimson pirate." they were all pirates and bad guys having great adventures. >> tony's view of the world emanated from books and from films. almost in an encyclopediaic way he could grab all these references. and i think he was excited to go on this journey to see if the reality actually matched the imagination. >> our first journey was for six weeks. and, remember, we had only spent one day with tony leading up to that moment. the image of tony, i mean, it was i think a guy who at that moment was very unsure of what was about to happen. >> good flight? >> you know, i'm looking at a strange and unpredictable future. in a tough business. with rules that i'm not completely familiar with and when i become familiar with them, i -- you know, i don't know whether i like them that much. >> we hit the road together. just the three of us. >> lydia and i had just gotten married. and then we had tony, a guy who we barely knew. it was like three idiots trying to figure each other out. >> the first shoot was japan. we didn't know what we were doing. he definitely didn't know what he was doing. and tony immediately became uncomfortable and awkward. >> what we would find out very quickly was tony was actually a very shy human being. and to get him to make eye contact or to interact wasn't his natural state. >> that compounded by the fact that we were in japan, being sort of led into scenes where there was a lot of kind of formality involved. you know, all of those factored in to him being quiet, which was like the worst possible thing. >> oh, wow. spectacular. >> i mean, chris and i went back to the hotel and basically looked at each other and said, like, we're [ muted ]. sticky nn and the cutest boxed lunch we have ever seen. and you can find him right now on upwork.com when the world is your workforce, finding the perfect project manager, designer, developer, or whomever you may need... tends to fall right into place. find top-rated talent who can start today on upwork.com this labor day, we want you to enjoy all the fall things, without worrying about affording all the things. so, we promise to have your back, if you just promise to take in the fall colors. seasons change, but our lowe's price promise is everyday. shop fall at lowe's today. come on guys, eat your food, let's go! i wanna taste your banana pudding, you taste my banana pudding. it's on. it's on. it's on. 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[ phone ringing ] >> i read "kitchen confidential" at that time, and i called him. and i invite him to have lunch with me because i want to meet the man. and he shows up with a tv crew. >> i thought, this was a jackpot. this was one of my idols, where i was just absolutely freaked out. incredibly sophisticated, refined, clean, beautiful, impeccably presented. the craft performed at its highest level. >> when i meet him, i don't expect him to be so articulate. and he has amazing good manners at the table. >> i think the person that people experienced on camera was someone who seemingly had this incredible ability to engage with anybody he came across. there was that persona that was created over time. >> but that burned off and it became tony. >> all of the places that i'm going, i'm really excited about this one. going back to the ancestral homeland and maybe discover some things along the way. so this is my father and a little friend in france. a little oyster village. this is one of my favorite pictures also of my brother and i in the same spot. we didn't do a lot of travel when we were kids because, i mean, my parents were not rich. we did go to france a couple times because my dad had relatives there. >> i'm nervous. who ever thought we'd do something this goofy? >> this is an oyster boat similar the one on which i had my first oyster. >> i blame my first oyster for everything i did after. my thrill-seeking, my hideous screw ups in pursuit of pleasure. i brilgdsed -- bridled bitterly at the choke hold of love. >> outstanding corporal. >> pet lent view of my bourgeois parents who committed the unpardonable sin of loving me. >> i'm glad we got the chance to do this. >> me too, yeah. >> okay. >> call. >> yeah, let's shoot another one, yeah. take two. >> two years ago frequent flier miles meant nothing to me. today miles earned are the pathetic milestones. >> take turn. >> we would write the voiceover in the beginning, like we need context for what we are seeing, some summary of the scene. >> later on another swing through southeast asia with layovers here and there. first stop, singapore, a quick business dinner with my editor. tan? >> tanabalon. >> tony would come to the narration he would like what is this shit? he was start skrachgds things out. first started with a word or two here or sentence or two here. you know then he became man maniacal about it. he understood this is an extension of me, this is an extension of my writing. i better write in my voice. you know, otherwise this is going to -- i'm going to sound like a travel television host rather than a writer. >> making tv was becoming creatively satisfying. i wrote the book and yet continued filming. the tail now wagged the dog. i was hooked on travel and on seeing the world and on the terms i was seeing. i was on the road for the better part of two years, during which time everything in my life changed. i stopped working as a chef. the job whose daily routines had always been the only thing that stood between me and chaos. my first marriage began to fall apart. >> they were together almost 30 years. you know, he was a traditional romantic. he believed that you could meet your high school sweetheart and spend the rest of your life with her. they were like, you know, sid and nancy, like two people con conspiring against the world. it was a love born out of youth and rebellion.spiring against t. it was a love born out of youth and rebellion. >> all right, nancy, i hope your divorce lawyer is paying close attention to this footage. feel free to depose anyone on this crew at any time. this too, of course, is part of life's glorious mosaic. nancy had no interest in fame or being tied to fame. but it just was like a rebirth for tony. it was like he died and was reborn. this was a new person with a new life. >> i wrote a crime novel around that time in which the character's yearning for a white picket fences kind of life reflected my own truth more than any nonfiction i've written. shortly after that, i cruelly burned down my previous life in its entirety. n out-of-apartment experience- 'cause these cramped confines aren't going to fit your rapidly expanding family. but with more rental listings than anybody else, apartments-dot-com can help you trade this love nest for... 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>> we're damn lucky to be here. >> spending all this time at the pool watching helicopters come in and out. it was just a waiting game for us. >> we had to go in the basements because there was a lot of bombs fired. >> you know, look at us in these scenes, sitting around the pool getting tan, you know watching a war. if there is a single metaphor in this entire experience that -- you know, that's probably it. not a flattering one. >> when they arrived back, the first thing he said was, we cannot make a show out of this. i refuse to exploit this experience in that way. needless to say, the network saw it differently. >> there was no neat sumup to the story. >> he stopped doing the rosy sum-up of what we just saw. he just stopped. in the few years since i started to travel the world i found myself changing. i had begun to believe that the dinner table was the great leveler. now, i'm not so sure. maybe the world's not like that at all. maybe in the real world the one without cameras and happy food and travel shows, everybody, the good and the bad together, are all crushed under the same terrible wheel. i hope -- i really hope i'm wrong about that. >> that ambiguity, that's what he embraced. open-endedness is where the answers are. >> it was an embittering experience. it got all of us thinking about, you know, what's important in life. >> it's recording. oh, my god. you look like an idiot. so i'm talking with mr. anthony bourdain. this is our vacation video. we're going to show this to our children. >> welcome to my first independent film. my spring vacation. >> how do you say that in english? >> is this a bad thing? >> tony was single and ottavia worked for me. tony called me and said who is this girl, ottavia? and i said have fun don't take it seriously. >> you know, we were the perfect match for those occasional, you know, rendezvous. like drama. >> what do you mean? does grandma drive like this in no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bad boy.? no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this b no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bl no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bo no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bo no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this b no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this b no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this b no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bl no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bo no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet this bo no hand. >> i thought i was going to meet no han no hand % this bad boy nonetheless. perfecto. >> you know what the show is about? >> it's about an existential crossroads in my life. you look bored already. >> yes. >> you saw they were pretty smitten. he always really appreciated very strong women. she would cut him no slack. >> this is a little [ bleep ]. what are the chances this is going to end up on the cutting room floor? >> zero, even if we fight. >> that would be good television, see. we should fight. >> couple of months later we are in a restaurant, and she is toasting him at the table and i see tears in his eyes, real tears. and we are, like, my god he is in love. >> okay, let's do some romantic thing. >> what, like, no. >> tony was like a teenager like falling in love for the first time. they changed their clothes and music they were listening to. and pieces of him that you thought you knew were shifting. >> were you shocked when tony had a kid? >> i was shocked. i had asked him are you going to have kids? and he is like, it's just not something i ever see myself doing, ever. >> for most of my life i wouldn't have been a good father. too self-involved, too messed up on drugs, and also afraid. the thought of being fighting for a child, you know, i was not up to that kind of fear. >> any doubts i might have had kind of dissipated when i realized how happy -- how happy excited he was, that he was going to become a father. >> no phone. >> no phone? >> okay. okay. it's okay. >> that's okay? >> that's okay. >> yeah, it's okay, dada? >> come on. >> okay, a little hug. >> come on. come on now. okay. okay. okay. okay. >> here. >> come on. up. >> apple what about your apple? [ tickling ] one, two, three. hoo. >> but what does the doctor look like? >> well, hello. i'm dr. tony. what seems to be the problem here? i'm here to help you get all better. >> hurrah! >> we should all help all people when they need help. that reminds me i have to get back. >> bye. >> bye! >> this is my life. i wake up. i walk my daughter to her summer camp. you know, i have a few minutes of normal family life and i take the elevator downstairs and there is yet another -- hey, what's up, man? are you on the job? >> no. >> tony got really famous. every two minutes it seems someone is going up to him, hey, you know, tony, huge fan. can i take a photo? can you talk to me? what are some travel tips? it was just incessant, non-stop barrage. and that's when i was like, tony, like, how do you maintain your cool and your composure and you're nice? i'll never forget. he says me being nice to someone and being gracious to them, if that's my job, it certainly beats being middling line cook at a struggling restaurant. >> do you have anything resembling a normal life? >> no. i'm asking this because the answer for me is no. i want to say no, because i just visited my friends. i haven't seen them in many years. >> right. >> and i felt i just -- i couldn't relate. >> i know. i know and i understand those. but -- but, you know, i'm a freak. >> they own [ muted ]. >> jesus, is this so interesting? >> how many days of straight shooting you got? >> oh, don't ask me that. thout t affording all the things. so, we promise to have your back, if you just promise to take in the fall colors. seasons change, but our lowe's price promise is everyday. shop fall at lowe's today. it's the all-new subway series menu! 12 irresistible new subs... like #6 the boss. pepperoni kicks it off with meatballs smothered in rich marinara. don't forget the fresh mozzarella. don't you forget who the real boss is around here. it's subway's biggest refresh yet. football, housewives, football, housewives, football, housewives... whoops. oh no... the housewives are on the field. i repeat, the housewives are on the field. i just want to talk! yeah! who flips a table? 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ooh, romance is in the air. who says that? >> you might like it. >> i would say his barometer for bullshit in general was extremely sensitive. but if he felt we were bullshiting, that was the ultimate sin. >> what kind of fascist regime is this? >> because when tony wanted to leave, tony would leave. stopping him had to be physical. like, putting my body in between him and the escape route. >> keep him away from me. no, no, no. >> goodbye. >> kind of burst into tears. >> in the beginning it was just chris and lydia shooting with him. they did that for several years and then brought in a whole team of people, many of them who stuck around to the end. >> this is for you. >> oh! >> you might need this later. >> oh, i will. >> it was pretty much the most formative years of my life. >> i think tony liked me for a couple reasons. one was i enjoyed being with tony. >> you know, it was very competitive. so the bar got pushed every single episode. >> tony was in on everything. every show was something that was important. every show had his care in it. he would say the greatest sin is mediocrity. >> it bothered him if everyone liked the show. he said it should create conversation. >> how would is he? 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