bare bones bargain. if not, payments to critters, bill payments, you name it, there is not enough income to cover all that. every month we come up $125 billion short. if we cannot borrow to bridge the cap, 40% of the monthly obligations could not be paid, and that could include social security checks due to go out on august 3rd. the stakes we just laid out are monumental, so both sides have to give ground and risk their jobs for the good of the country. what is so hard about that, right? joining me with their insights on conflict resolution are cnn contributor, pete dominic, and family law attorney, mrs. winestein. what does it take for two entrenched parties to agree on a deal that both need? >> well, you know, the obvious is that you take the emotion out of the room and you try to deal with the practical. what we deal with is the practical and not the legal when we're trying to negotiate this. they're trying to take the politics out of the room and get to a solution that can solve the short-term problem that is looming right now, and get that done. because all the politics and all the emotion, you don't get anywhere. we need to put our business caps on and get to practical solution, and we find that in the divorces. that's how we get them settled. >> pete, are politics that much different from ordinary life? shouldn't the politicians be able to come to some type of agreement with so much at stake? >> of course they should, randi. but politics and elections are like love. they make you do crazy things. you can't take the emotion -- i disagree. she sounds like a great lawyer and therapists, but you can't take the emotion out of politics and out of these issues. it is like a marriage in that you have a lot to lose. but it's not just them. they could lose their jobs and lose an election, but the whole country -- the whole world's economy could lose. so the stakes here are way higher than something personal or just a job. there's a lot of emotion. i am waiting for speaker boehner to cry and the president to storm out. maybe they will get something done that way. >> i knew you were going to go there. i just knew it! if you were in the white house cabinet room today i am curious as to what you would advice, the president and speaker boehner, how would you bring them together? >> i disagree with what was just said. you have to get into the psychology of whatever is it, and yes, the stakes are so much higher. what i would do, you have to let everybody have a voice, but at the same time you have to say, well that's all well and good, but now we have to come to a solution. you have good ideas and you have good ideas, and we have to get the politics and emotion out of the room, and we have to look at something practical. there has to be a solution. if everybody is going to worry about their jobs and constituents, which i know that's important, the job is never going to get done. emotion and money can be a disaster. you have to listen. everybody has to listen to each other, and like you said at the outset, they have to give a little bit. it's a compromise. there's no winners at the end of the day, and everybody feels like a loser. so for we the people -- >> can i say something? randi, let me say something sexists here. the problem is men don't listen. we don't listen that well. my wife may not appreciate this, but i slept on the couch for something that i said that was wrong. one of the problems is they are not listening to each other enough and they are just talking and not thinking about the consequences. it's not just their jobs or elections, but there is the whole world economy. there will be emotions in it, and there should be emotions in it and i root for emotions, but in the ends you have to get it back together because it's not just you. >> i don't know, janelle. maybe the answer is to bring in a woman to resolve this. >> well, we deal with men all the time. there are husbands and wives. you need a good mediator in the room, regardless of gender, because you are right, you men don't listen. but at the end of the day, you need somebody in there with a level head that can pull the emotion out. until you put those emotions to the side, and i don't care if it's big business or marriage or the country, you have got to get your egos outside. we know for you men, that's tough, but it can be done. i have confidence in these people and their abilities. they have to get the politics and emotion out of the room. >> all right. interesting discuss, and certainly a -- >> nancy pelosi is in there, but we're not talking about me at all? >> no, we're done. thank you both. a mistrial declared today in the perjury trial of former baseball great, roger clemens. the jurors were shown a videotape of the hearings on performance enhancing drug use in baseball. part of the tape did include evidence that the judge ordered as inadmissible. about-face for rupert murdoch. they have agreed to appear before the parliamentary. initially murdoch said he would not be able to attend the july 19th hearing. the probe was launched yesterday in response to allegations that journalists working for murdoch's empire illegally eavesdropped on phone messages and bribed police. and new jersey senator, the democratic lawmaker that just called on the u.s. attorney general to investigate whether this phone hacking scandal has reached the u.s. we will be speaking with him. in less than an hour, the man accused of murdering a 8-year-old brooklyn boy makes his first court appearance. the boy disappeared on his way home from summer camp. the surveillance video is the last time that he was seen alive. the video shows him talking to a stranger identified as evie aaron. police charged aaron with murder. officers say they found human remains in his freezer and a trash bin two miles from his apartment. he told police he killed the boy in a panic after seeing the child's face on a missing person's poster. there was no warning or intelligence indicating a terror attack. yesterday's three bombs killed 18 people in mumbai, and investigators don't know who was behind the explosions. >> the fact that they took place minutes within each other, separated by eight to ten minutes, shows that it was a coordinated terror attack. >> the government has been careful not to finger pakistani militants. a cnn crew finds itself under fire in libya. >> reporter: wait! wait! >> reporter: there are's gun fire all around us. >> they make their presence known. what happened, right after the break. with no artificial flavors or preservatives. naturals from purina cat chow. share a better life. the doctor leaned over and said to me, "you just beat the widow-maker." i was put on an aspirin, and it's part of my regimen now. 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here is where it stops, on the north side. the ventura freeway here, and you can take it over to the hollywood down into the harbor freeway and then to the rosa parks and santa monica and back. and then you can, what i call bush wacking, the glenn over to topanga canyon, or any of the roads that go slightly through the canyon into the santa monica mountains. the best thing i can tell you is not how to get around it. you can go to a website, and then all of a sudden can you have ten or 20 miles of backup, and you are on a empty tank that would be painful. >> gas up and get to vegas. that's what i would do. >> get out of town today. >> exactly. >> chad, thank you. hundreds of people are saying good-bye to betty ford. she is to be buried next to her husband a short time from now. these are live pictures from inside where the funeral service will take place at grace her casket has arrived and the funeral service should get under way around 2:00 p.m. eastern time. she died friday at the age of 93. we will have a live report from michigan right after this. my doctor told me calcium is best absorbed in small continuous amounts. only one calcium supplement does that in one daily dose. new citracal slow release... continuously releases calcium plus d for the efficient absorption my body needs. citracal. vietnam, 1967. i got mine in iraq, 2003. u.s.a.a. auto insurance is often handed down from generation to generation, because it offers a superior level of protection and because u.s.a.a.'s commitment to serve the military, veterans, and their families is without equal. begin your legacy. get an auto insurance quote. u.s.a.a. we know what it means to serve. episcopalepiscopal. former first lady, betty ford, is being laid to rest today in her michigan hometown. she died on friday and was 93. she will be buried next to her husband, gerald ford, in grand rapids. ted roleins is joining us now from outside the museum as we continue to take a look at these pictures of people gathering inside waiting for the service to begin. ted, tell us who you have seen so far in terms of those that have come to pay their respect. >> reporter: well, it's so far the overwhelming and memorable thing that we have seen is the thousands of people that are from grand rapids that really did take that wild ride with the fords from michigan, as they came the president of the united states and the first lady, and then afterwards this was their home, and they lived in california and then in colorado for a while, but this was their home. they saw it last night and this morning where she lay in repose, and they left to go to the church with the body. 5,000 people from grand rapids filed through and paid their respect to the former first lady. we are expecting attendees at the funeral to include, barbara bush, and former president clinton, and the eulogy at the service, and then following the service the family will come back with their mother and she will be laid to rest on the backside of the museum, as you mentioned, next to her husband, gerald ford, on what would have been, ironically, his 94th birthday. >> is this where the ford's were actually married, this church? >> reporter: yes, this is where they were married, and this is where people came to say good-bye to gerald ford after he passed in late 2006. his service was in early 2007, and it was one of the spots where the people paid their respect here. it was a church that meant a lot to betty and gerald ford, starting with their marriage. >> can you add anything, insight about what life was like for betty ford? this was her hometown and where she grew up and where she will be buried. >> reporter: this is where she grew up. she was a dancer, and wanted to go into dance and was a professional model for a department store in grand rapids, and she left and then came back and continued to work as a model, she had a first marriage which did not last very long and then met the love of her life, gerald ford, and then soon after they met they started their life-long love affair, and so grand rapids is where betty ford started and where she lived most of her life before she met gerald. >> we will continue to wait for this service to begin. just about a half hour from now, and we will continue to bring you many more of the sights and sounds of betty ford's funeral as it gets under way. a judge declares the mistrial in the perjury trial of baseball great roger clemens. we'll tell you why next. time is running out for president obama and congressional leaders to reach a long-term deficit reduction deal. according to two democrats familiar with the discussions, if both sides fail to reach an agreement on spending cuts and tax hikes by friday, they will have to shift their focus to solely raising the debt ceiling. the president is meeting with both parties today, marking the fifth straight day of talks. a shocking development in the roger clemens perjury trial. a federal judge declare add mistrial today after jurors watched a prosecution video that the judge ruled inadmissible. u.s. district judge, reggie walton, said prosecutors should have modified the video. authorities are still trying to figure out who was behind a series of deadly explosions that rocked mumbai yesterday. the homegrown organization is suspected. some security experts say a lack of intelligence about the attacks indicates a government failure, but officials insist all hostile groups in the area are, quote, under radar, and those responsible will be found. media tycoon, robert mur murdoch and his son james, will attend the meeting at a british house of commons. 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