The Good Men Project Become a Premium Member We have pioneered the largest worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. Your support of our work is inspiring and invaluable. When the ache of living notches up, it’s as if I’ve been through a vigorous workout, my ravaged brain courses with norepinephrine, which leaves me tender, and in need of a long luxurious bath, red wine, and a good sulk. You know what I mean? I don’t want to appear irrational, but endings are emotionally exhausting for me, I’m addicted to routine like a heroin addict, and the familiar as if it were holy ground. For those of us with cyclical jobs, this can be quite jarring when the academic year comes to an end, and my cherished routines are kicked out on my scholarly ass.