Question: I need some advice on how to proceed with my marriage, or even if it should proceed any longer. I feel I have come to an impasse where I am just so tired of fighting for what I want and ultimately not getting it. I hate conflict and always choose to bury what I feel or want to say in the moment rather than have that awkward encounter. I have had couple’s counselling and this has helped somewhat but old habits remain. My husband is quite dominant and the decision maker. We have been together 12 years, married for three. We are now trying to have children. Since we have met I have been very clear that I ultimately want to move home to be close to my friends and family, and we are from the same county. My husband is also very close to his family but has always vetoed moving to our home county as he says he would rather die than live there (never explained why). I am at the stage of saying we clearly want different things and maybe we should separate. The thought of it terrif
Take this quiz to find out how in tune you are with your body – and what to do if you’re not. (Photo: Gallo Images/Getty Images)
There are various types of intelligence – emotional, educational and spiritual, for example. But we also need to develop our body intelligence to be truly healthy, according to US doctor Rachel Carlton Abrams.
“Being body-wise is the ability to tap into what’s going on in your body and learn what it needs,” says Dr Carlton Abrams, author of the book BodyWise: Discovering Your Body’s Intelligence for Lifelong Health and Healing.
“Our minds are now so busy many of us live completely from the neck up and pay no attention to the rest of our body at all – until we get sick. Tune in to what your body is telling you though, and it can change your health, your weight and how you feel. The healthiest people among my patients are those in tune with their body.”