as kathleen and the children slept upstairs, he was down stairs in the basement sleeping with 17-year-old stacey cales. we were living separate lives in the same house just for economics. i m sure he can justify it that way now. like everything else when drew talks about kathleen, it is a very one sided story. a story that 17-year-old stacy cales believed. i am not real sure what he said to her to make it okay, but stacy was okay with that. she said that she liked him a lot. kathleen learned about the affair months later in october 2001 when she received an anonymous letter telling her about cales. she must have been devastated. beyond. beyond. when she confronted drew, doman said it got physical. she called me and said drew was hitting her and he threw her against the refrigerator.