then it happened. spoke to him that morning. matter of fact i was on the phone with him when he got the call. i said wow, i guess i won t see him until midnight. midnight came and went. joe never made it home. i remember the first night i had all four of them in the bathtub. thinking in my head how am i going to do this? for the spor kids, it s the memory of their dad that get them through the hard times. i remember my dad being a happy guy. he would be singing in the house. i remember waking up and i d wake up and spell pancakes and i would get excited because it was daddy s flap jacks. he made them the best of anyone. we used to dance in the kitchen and i danced on his feet. when i got out of the bath he would put my hair in a mohawk. even the youngest has