that the name matches the initials, which was eve wiley. at that time, i hadn t heard her story at all. so, i wasjust really excited, you know, to be able to connect with half siblings. and i wasjust like, oh, my god, you know, i ve always wanted this. so, i immediately began to connect with eve and she asked me, do you know the details of your birth story? so, i m just so excited. and in my mind immediately, i m starting to type, you know, i was donor conceived. and i m trying to type all this out because i m thinking, 0h, she probably thinks that i don t know that i was donor conceived. she either asked me who my mother s fertility doctor was or was my mother s fertility doctor dr kim mcmorries. and so i said, yes. and she s like, well, i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he s also our biological father. i couldn t even finish.
call him poppa, we spend holidays together. he even officiated my wedding. but in 2019, eve s family happiness was again disrupted when she took an at home dna test. that s when i found out that he was not my biological father. shouting you have these moments in your life where there s a before and an after. this is what that felt like. and my world stopped. kim mcmorries the hero that was in my parents stories, the man that was able to get them pregnant when all they wanted was a child, when they struggled with years and years of infertility, the man that delivered me was my biological father. crying dr kim mcmorries, who was still a practising fertility doctor until his retirement
i am nothing to my biological father. that hurts. it seems so cold and calculated, and it is something so foreign to who i am and how i go through life, and how i experience my relationships, that it s hard for me to relate to someone like that. but at what point do you become so callous to this and so calculated that this is just a normal routine? like, how does this become normalised for him? the bbc reached out to both dr kim mcmorries in texas and dr paul bjones in colorado. neither responded to our multiple requests for comment. i feel like this circumstance bringing us together has really been the only silver lining to this entire situation. to be able to look at someone and see a bit of yourself, it was a unique and new experience for me that i found very settling and comforting.
in the spring of 2021, later admitted to her in writing that he mixed his sperm with that of a donor s to inseminate eve s mother, margo williams. at the time, this was entirely legal for dr mcmorries to do, in texas and really anywhere else in the united states. since i had been a donor while in medical school, i spoke with one of my mentors, and he said they were having better success by mixing samples. i believe this may have been what happened in your mother s case. as far as the mixed straws at insemination, if the genetic testing confirmed, it would appear that you did inherit some of my genes. i hope all of this can be some help in confirming your roots that i am your biological father. i was 30 years old and i was starting over for the third time in my life. and that was a bomb that. ..just sent ripples