the person staring back at you. there s not very many people that can understand what we re going through and offer the kind of emotional support that we need. through all this, i found a whole group of people that i never would have met before. there are other people that are, like, in the same situation as me, and we call ourselves donor deceived. it s horrifying to find out that your mother s fertility doctor actually was your biological father. the donor deception came in in the 19705 and 80s when doctors like dr kim mcmorries in texas or dr pauljones in colorado used their own sperm to inseminate women who were their patients after telling them that he would use the sperm of a donor, usually a medical resident resembling the husband or sometimes even the husband s sperm itself. while the patient was lying in an examination room, he would go down the hall, produce a sample, and then use that sample in a relatively short period of time to impregnate the women.
when it opened, it connected me with three half siblings, and so i m like, oh, my god! my husband and i are both like, oh, my god. oh, my god. one of the half sisters, it only had her initials on 23andme, and then i get a new friend request come in, that the name matches the initials, which was eve wiley. at that time, i hadn t heard her story at all. so, i wasjust really excited, you know, to be able to connect with half siblings. and i wasjust like, oh, my god, you know, i ve always wanted this. so, i immediately began to connect with eve and she asked me, do you know the details of your birth story? so, i m just so excited. and in my mind immediately, i m starting to type, you know, i was donor conceived. and i m trying to type all this out because i m thinking, 0h, she probably thinks that i don t know that i was donor conceived. she either asked me who my mother s fertility doctor was or was my mother s fertility doctor
dr kim mcmorries. and so i said, yes. and she s like, well, i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he s also our biological father. i couldn t even finish. ..reading the sentence because it didn t make sense. like, how is that possible? i mean, he s my mom s doctor. there s no way that s a thing, right? like, that s not. that s not a thing. at the time that most of these inseminations took place, nothing about what the doctors did was criminal, and holding them accountable today is difficult for several reasons, including statutes of limitation, destruction of evidence such as medical records and laws regarding consent not directly matching the doctor s conduct in each case. when he became a doctor, he took an oath to do no harm. and i feel like he completely disregarded that 100%. and, yeah, my mom s 0k.
to identify at least a dozen half siblings. i look at this photo and i think a lot of things. i m sad that i was so dispensable and i m super creeped out. it s a hurtful photo because, like, lam. i am nothing to my biological father. that hurts. it seems so cold and calculated, and it is something so foreign to who i am and how i go through life, and how i experience my relationships, that it s hard for me to relate to someone like that. but at what point do you become so callous to this and so calculated that this is just a normal routine? like, how does this become normalised for him? the bbc reached out to both dr kim mcmorries in texas and dr paul bjones in colorado. neither responded to our multiple requests for comment. i feel like this circumstance
even in elementary school, jessica wrote about her experience. when i started this book, that s where i started it. dr mcmorries started helping my mother in august 1984. from that date untiljune 2nd, 1986, my mother went through a lot of pain, disappointments and travelled many miles. her trip back to the doctor onjuly12th, 1986 made it all worthwhile. dr mcmorries did a pregnancy test that showed positive, which meant she was going to have a baby. here i come. exactly nine months later, on march 5th, 1987, i came into this world and my mother was the happiest person in the world. about five years ago, i started having these very drastic health issues and concerns, and i was seeing, you know, doctor after doctor after doctor, trying to get a diagnosis to figure out what was going on. i purchased a 23andme dna ancestry and health kit last january in hopes of guiding me