some day i m going to meet all those people who did those voices. who is normal and who is nuts? it s question we ask dr. keith ablow. about the man cave, good morning. it says every evening my husband spends two hours in his man cave with my brother-in-law. by the time my husband is done, he s all talked out and we rarely converse. is this normal or nuts? well, listen, it s nuts. this isn t just a man cave. this is like a marriage cave. this person s using the man cave as a substitute for the relationship. this is every night. it s two hours a night. either he gets out of the man cave and comes into the marriage, or there can t be a marriage. keith, maybe he feels like he can only talk to his brother-in-law about sports. they talk about sports for two hours because his wife isn t interested. maybe that s it. remember maybe he s a member of the he man s women hater s club.