in the army is only rape if you yell, cry, and fight about it. i ll say that one more time. in the army, it s only rape if you yell, cry, and fight about it. a rape playbook one might say. in her new york times piece titled she didn t act like a rape victim army veteran ryan lee dosty says her reported rapes and those of two other women in the army were dismissed by officials and says a fourth woman kept quiet about hers because, quote, she knew better. dostie writes, quote, our rapes were on us. the army was telling us and neither i nor the specialist nor the staff sergeant acted enough like a rape victim. a mantra often repeated by the investigators in my own case. in a statement to nbc news an army spokesperson said this. commanders take every report of sexual assault, sexual harassment, and associated retaliatory behavior seriously by employing a wide variety of judicial, nonjudicial, and