in the army is only rape if you yell, cry, and fight about it. i'll say that one more time. in the army, it's only rape if you yell, cry, and fight about it. a rape playbook one might say. in her "new york times" piece titled "she didn't act like a rape victim" army veteran ryan lee dosty says her reported rapes and those of two other women in the army were dismissed by officials and says a fourth woman kept quiet about hers because, quote, she knew better. dostie writes, quote, our rapes were on us. the army was telling us and neither i nor the specialist nor the staff sergeant acted enough like a rape victim. a mantra often repeated by the investigators in my own case. in a statement to nbc news an army spokesperson said this. commanders take every report of sexual assault, sexual harassment, and associated retaliatory behavior seriously by employing a wide variety of judicial, nonjudicial, and