Dear How to Do It,
I have been hooking up with a guy I’ve had a long-standing crush on. My mind is blown that it’s even happening. The issue here though is that I cannot successfully ride this guy! I am very wide-hipped and sort of a body builder. He is slender, and his body is narrow. When I am on top it’s not pleasurable for anyone. I feel awkward and literally just move him around on the bed, and there’s no actual motion where it needs to be. My hips end up hurting after only a few minutes. Also, he’s my first uncut guy. I feel like my old tried-and-true moves are not working, orally or sexually speaking! I have spent time this week researching on how to make sure he’s having a good time and I’m not hurting him. I just really want to wow this guy, and I am feeling inept.