was going to be living across the hall, my first instinct was, my goodness, i don't think this is a good idea. >> nevertheless, shele was moving on. and so was rod. >> he was very charming, intelligent, funny and in a quirky sort of way. and i really enjoyed playing backgammon with him. >> debra oles met rod at a backgammon tournament. months later, their relationship became romantic. >> i was looking for any sort of relationship. and he was pretty aggressive. i think i was naive in the fact that, i'm considerably older than rod. so, it never occurred to me that he would be interested in me in that way. >> so, it surprise you when he made an overture? >> right, of course it made me feel good. you know, for a man to be attracted to me. >> need, shele let's working with divorce attorney, lance meyer. >> we talked about all the problems she was having with her husband and the concerns