âThere are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isnât true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.â â Soren Kierkegaard
The word is gaslighting. It has been a new one in my vocabulary over the past few years of sometimes difficult discussions with friends and family, but while the word might be new to me, the action certainly is not.
Kierkegaard was right â believing what is not true is a sure way to be fooled, but unless we know ourselves, we are as likely to be the gaslighters as we are to believe them.