"When I get mad, I stop thinking. I see red, and something takes over that I can't control," one of my patients said, adding that when he felt he wasn't being heard, he needed to assert himself, "even if I come across as angry." His "microscopic fuse" was negatively affecting his life, he said. He was on probation at work for snapping at a colleague, and his partner said their relationship would end if he didn't seek help.Subscribe to The Post Most newsletter for the most important and interesti