The way people expected a young woman to react. but to hold me to a stereotype of how people react to certain things is unreasonable. it s unreasonable to assume guilt based upon a reaction. my reaction was more stunned than anything else. but it s not just one-on-one thing, right? there s the kissing. there s the split. there s the repeated nonchalance or what they see as nongrief. i went into perusia very young, not just 20, but just young. young and sheltered and inexperienced. and, you know, when i first ....