here is my question to both of you and speaking from someone without child but one day hoping to maybe be a mom, to be like the two of you. it is interesting. like the two of you hard working women, now and then also of course before you had your kids, you have this self-identity. i am tough, powerful independent single career woman and then you have this child, how do you wrestle with maintaining that identity, but then. i could say you can do it. no you can t have it all. one friend of mine once talked about this. she said think of your life being on a sailboat. sometimes you might have to have more family but you re still moving forward with your career and family. other times you might have to tack more towards your professional or career. i think what is so important