Remember what i wanted to say i wanted to say our approaches are converging in opposite ways and students feel safe to get the bullying addressed but the policies are punitive and high stakes and we know that zero tolerance is not the case and makes things work and gives a one week vacation. You can leave school for a week, have fun and when you come back you get to do what you did before. Thank you. Thanks. One thing i always thought disciplining kids you is you have to get create and i have have systems in place and one thing i have always done with administrators if you want to make the bully feel like theyre being held responsible then take away their appearance of social power. What that means is in every school that i ever been to there is always a place where that kids have places they hang out; right . So if you have a kid that is aggressive or bullying someone they have a place they hang out. Do not let that person hang out there. You can get into the most ridiculous conversat
Remember what i wanted to say i wanted to say our approaches are converging in opposite ways and students feel safe to get the bullying addressed but the policies are punitive and high stakes and we know that zero tolerance is not the case and makes things work and gives a one week vacation. You can leave school for a week, have fun and when you come back you get to do what you did before. Thank you. Thanks. One thing i always thought disciplining kids you is you have to get create and i have have systems in place and one thing i have always done with administrators if you want to make the bully feel like theyre being held responsible then take away their appearance of social power. What that means is in every school that i ever been to there is always a place where that kids have places they hang out; right . So if you have a kid that is aggressive or bullying someone they have a place they hang out. Do not let that person hang out there. You can get into the most ridiculous conversat
Doing and that isnt cool and you didnt do your job that well, if we get in these ambassador programs and give them training and rigor and how difficult that moment can be you can transform a school because of the power of kids talking to each other. All right. Do we have another question . I appreciate that point you have been making. Been, wooing with the board and the foundation and launch the student Advisory Board and i think we need to get that training kicked in really fast and thats a point well taken, and i appreciate lee you showing that clip because it illustrates an important distinction that we need to make. We dont want to send the message to america that bullying is normative; that bullying is normal, and that clip illustrated that the school is sending that message, and there is a difference, an important distinction between the school sort of embodying and sending the message to the kids that bullying is just a part of growing up and believing that bullying in our schoo
Can we do and i want you to know what i am doing right now and i am working with boys and i finished the porn section and honest im doing all of it and why do girls send naked pictures and this week were creating concrete strategies and scenarios so they can picture what to do when they are up either way against these dynamics and if we Work Together this way and really name it. Sometimes kids with aspergers can do things that are off putting. I sat with a kid in a class that put his leg over class during the over the head during class and 17 years old and its off putting. We can own it and now what do we do about it . Its not distracting to everybody fine but how do we do it in a way were honest with everyone in the room and reaching out to each other appropriately. You have a project and working on a thing, a whole school based project. Yeah, well anyways thank you guys. This is really a great conversation. Just a little bit about where were going. Bully the movie is backed by a team
To speak up, and it causes this sweeping under the rug and i just think this needs to be addressed and i wanted to thank you for your comment about connecting the false assumption that bullying is always linked to suicide. Thats something that was talked about at the federal summit that we need to separate these two issues out to some extent and one of the things well, i will just ask i guess my question is sorry. So much to share i thought something that was interesting and i am trying to remember what i wanted to say i wanted to say our approaches are converging in opposite ways and students feel safe to get the bullying addressed but the policies are punitive and high stakes and we know that zero tolerance is not the case and makes things work and gives a one week vacation. You can leave school for a week, have fun and when you come back you get to do what you did before. Thank you. Thanks. One thing i always thought disciplining kids you is you have to get create and i have have sy