It is still a judgment. it s still we re watching you, you re worthy. i want kids to have that time to learn and who the professor was saying in earlier in terms of character, i have no problem telling kids at the beginning i give a trophy for the best, i give a trophy for the most improved and for the person with the best character. if you stay extra, and i help your other teammates, that s more important than any other outcome. i think that gives them the what s the goal?et a goal, - be a good person? that s what i want to work on? great. but it s letting kids decide what s important, and not saying here s what you re doing and here s the trophy no matter what actually happened. thanks to both of you. definitely a tough one for parents. we all want to do what, you can ....