Particularly your mother, forever. mmm. is there any time in your life when you ve looked back and thought, i could have handled it differently ? absolutely not, because from the age of 16 and leaving, for the next 16 to 20 years old, i begged for their forgiveness, as if i had done something wrong. it took my sister s suicide to realise that, actually, i was the victim, not the perpetrator. the point is this. just. let me stop you for a second, cos what you ve just said is shocking. i believe she was called robina, your sister. she was, yeah. she, unlike you, agreed to go ahead with what i think you would always call a forced marriage. yeah. and in her 20s, deeply unhappy, she took her own life. she did. if you remember, i was still disowned by my family then, so my family never spoke to me again. ....