Let’s get a cleaner to come by, just once or twice, to get rid of the dirt we track in from when we’re out having fun. We can and should do most of the work ourselves, but we ought to do whatever it takes to make the common room inviting, open and accessible so we can spend our time living together actually being together. I don’t really care if we leave some trash out on the coffee table from time to time. I care that our house feels like a home. ....