was struggling with infertility. how was harold through the bad times, when she was losing the baby was he very supportive i asked her how this was going, that this had to be incredibly stressful and she said, her exact comments i ll never forget these words. life with harold is hard reporter: brother todd and sister-in-law rhonda also looked back and thought how difficult it could be to get toni on the phone without harold listening in you call their home number, you call her cell phone number, and you could call his cell phone number reporter: and he would answer he would answer when we spoke to her it was never just her it was always him and her in the background reporter: tammi recalled how harold used to come into toni s office as if he owned the place and how in his presence, toni, the self-confident doctor, seemed to melt away somehow. she said i ve just learned long ago it s just better to let harold be right. reporter: did that make you