the time when i was ten or 11. my grandfather who was sort of the patriarch of the family kept everything together, he died at the age of 67. which at the time i thought was really old. and i was like i can t believe that my grandfather died at 67ho years old. tucker: how did he die? just died of an aortic aneurysm, which is a problem that we later found outfo if he had gotten adequate treatment for, probably would be alive today or at least lived another ten, 15 years pretty easily. so he died. the family kind of spiraled from there. and he was also just not the cultural and spiritual head of the family, but the material head of the family. it was him who provided for us in the most.e important ways. so you eliminate all of that and then the family started spiral pretty powerfully. tucker: did you recognize it was happening? you definitely recognized by the time i was 13 and this was not normal.. and not in the way that too it was normal in the sense that a lot of families i