Remys opposite. There were so many people that would walk up to my wife and go im so sorry. How do you put up with him . Has anyone ever described you as quirky or odd or a goofball . Absolutely including jen, and probably anyone thats ever met me. Remy is a real force. And we knew when he walked in the room. At some point, youre like here comes remy you know . But their opposites attract relationship somehow just worked. Remy made a good salary as an ibm project manager, and jen seemed happy being a stay at home mom to two daughters and a son, said her childhood friend. Thats pretty much the biggest thing she talked about, her kids. She was a sunday school teacher. Girl scout troop leader. Knitting cooker. Also good at cooking. Very good at cooking . Yes uhhuh. Remi had a plan to run marathons, lots of them. 26 marathons, and i was sponsored. In one year . 26 marathons . Yes, maam. Remy wanted to get everyone in shape, including jen and her friend eileen. I started working out, and then he mentioned family. So running became a family affair. But as remy spent more Time Training for marathons, jen immersed herself in a competition of her own. She started playing an online game called kingdoms of camelot, where players from all over the world take on medieval roles and team up to wage battles together. She would show me pictures of her castle and her kingdom she was building on the phone. But on that december day in 2012 with christmas right around the corner, jen was focused on one thing, her daughter. That morning, the 11th she was supposed to go to syracuse. The big city was a Shopping Center and plenty of stores to choose from. Jen planned to buy her daughter that new dress for her concert. But day turned to night. Jen didnt return home. Remy called her cell sent Text Messages heard nothing back, so he decided to call the police. I told them that my wifes a few hours late. But the reason im worried is i havent heard from her since about 11 00 when she left which is highly unusual. Tell me exactly what happened. My wife left this morning between 10 00 and 11 00. She hasnt been back and im really freaked out. What are the scenarios playing out in your head . Car accident was the big one. I really thought some type of car accident. Were you able to sleep at all . Oh, no. I was up all night. The thing was, there were no reports of any Car Accidents in the area and no sightings of jen at the local hospitals. What had happened to jen . When we come back, the clues begin piling up. I found my wifes iphone. I can see it from her. Her phone, her van, and questions about that game. Did you think something sinister had happened . Absolutely. You know the first thing i thought was, the people in the game. 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The kids were waking and asking. Dad, wheres mom . And i said mom didnt come home last night. Im kind of worried. I called the police. Remy made breakfast and told his children ages 13, 8, and 6, not to worry. Mom will probably be home by the time you guys come home from school. Shes probably still out shopping and stuff. Did you believe that . That was my hope. But did you believe it . I didnt know what to believe. He started calling everyone in their circle. Had anyone heard from jen . At that point, i was on the phone with many of my friends, our mutual friends, and going out of my mind. Remys best friend, jason wicks, had an idea. After he had told me jen was missing, i was talking to some of the guys at work. A couple of people asked me if they had tried the find my iphone app. So i called him. Remy did you try this . After driving the kids to school, remy headed straight to the new Berlin Police department. While talking with the police chief, remy tried the app. Lo and behold it connected to her iphone. You figured out where her iphone was. Right there at the Police Station, with him. And it looked like the phone was moving. And i was freaking out. The spot was several miles outside new berlin and they called in detective richard cobb. It did show a location of jennifers phone. Officers headed there, looked around, and found nothing. Frustrated remy decided to go look for himself. He got out of the car, and opened the find my iphone app. Im hitting the play sound, play found. And theres a high shrieking loud sound. And i walked the bank and i didnt hear anything. And then i crossed the street and i started hearing it. And i looked, and i saw it. I immediately called 911. I found my wifes iphone. Im on boon hill road in south plymouth. I havent touched it. I can see it from here. Can you send someone out here . Where exactly was it found . It was kind of right over in that area. Its a little more weedy now than it was then. But it was amongst some weeds and shorter weeds and some rocks. You must have felt like we have a key piece of evidence pretty quickly in this disappearance. Obviously, it was key evidence. It was the first real physical clue that we had in the investigation. There was no sign of jen or her van. So how did the phone end up here . So far, this was just a missing persons case. It didnt necessarily mean there had been foul play. Maybe jen herself ditched the phone. It certainly wasnt outside the realm of possibility that maybe she had decided to leave home for a time frame and meet up with somebody else. Remy says it crossed his mind. Maybe jen had simply left him. Inside the house, he found something in the trash that seemed odd. Qtips, of putting makeup on. Jen had cut her hair some additional length and some of her older hair with the new color. He told the detective that in recent months jen seemed to be changing. She spent more time chatting online immersed in that fantasy world. And shed become strangely focused on her looks. She started putting on makeup. This is not what my wife normally looks like. But it seemed too farfetched. Remy thought jen would never abandon her kids. She would never do that not to the kids. No way. Her best friend, eileen, agreed. To her, a discarded phone was a very bad sign. He said i found her phone. And i said, oh my god. I couldnt believe it. My heart sunk. And the more detective cobb thought about it the more is seemed like someone other than jen had ditched the cell phone. If she wanted to get away from her husband and her family for a day or two, and, you know wanted no ties, she could have ditched the phone anywhere. Or just turned her phone off. Absolutely. Yeah. Another day passed. And then another. No jen. Then on day five, a major discovery. It happened when jens father was driving around town, looking for any sign of his daughter. 911, whats the address of your emergency . Sheriff . Yes. Im Tom Renz Jennifer ramsarans father. Yes. I found the van. It was jens red van. It had been abandoned here in this apartment complex eight miles from her home. It must have been just an awful, awful discovery for her father. Im sure it was. The van was empty. Inside, there were spots of blood. Are all of your worst fears being realized . Absolutely, yes. Devastated. Absolutely devastated. Shocked. Did you start to fear at that point that jennifer is never coming home . Whatever was going on here was probably not going to be a good outcome. Theres two questions, really. Where is jennifer and who did something to her . And now eileen jens best friend began thinking back to that game the virtual kingdom that had jen so fascinated. Did you think something sinister had happened . Absolutely. You know the first thing i thought was, these people in the game. Coming up who had jen been meeting online . We went to the mall. And she wanted to smell his cologne. Fantasy or reality . Jennifer ramsaran had a secret. This man knows where she lives. While Remy Ramsaran spent much of 2012 running marathons, his wife jen was immersed in a fantasy world of kingdoms of camelot. In the online game jen, the stay at home mom was transformed into a lady among lords. She just wanted to be on her game. And i would joke around about, jen, are you you know come back to the real world, you know, pull yourself out of that game. From her iphone jen chatted with other players from all over the world. It began as a way to pass the time. But became in remys words, an obsession. It started turning into addiction. And she was on it quite a lot. Close to eight hours a day. Maybe more. Even in the evenings. She was definitely sucked into it. She was checking out a little bit. Very much so. Eileen and her girls spent lots of time at the ramsaran house. She said she saw first hand how her martha stewartlike friend was changing. She wasnt cooking, you know. They were ordering out every night. I did the laundry one night because it was so stacked up. I said do you want me to do the laundry . She said sure. On a recent shopping trip together eileen says all jen could talk about was her gaming friends. And there was one player in particular a british man named rob, with whom she was clearly smitten. She would joke around about things they would talk about, you know because in england, its different than it is here. So different. And i think she liked that. Eileen says jen confessed that the online friendship had turned turned flirtatious. She even knew what kind of cologne this rob from england wore. We went to the mall and she wanted to smell his cologne. And we did. We smelled his cologne. And it sounded to eileen like jen was ready to take the virtual romance with rob into the real world. Rob knew where she lived. And he was thinking about relocating coming up here. And hes in england . Yeah. And i said, what if he does come up here . And she kind of giggled. No you with now with jen missing, she felt no choice but to tell the police and remy. When i told him, he was furious. He said what . And i said this man online knows where she lives. Did you feel the need to get in touch with this rob immediately . We worked to do that almost from the start. We sent messages through the gaming app. This is the Chenango County sheriffs office. Jennifer has been reported missing. We warn if youve had any contact with her. They wanted to interview this potential suspect, but he was an ocean away. So interpol arranged a meeting between rob and the british police. Rob admitted he was married, and used the word intimate to describe his relationship with jen. Jennifer had sent some sort of lingerie and he sent her i believe 150 that she never picked up. Do you know what that money was for . I believe it was to buy herself a gift. It was december 21 close to christmastime. Though it was clear they talked about meeting in person, robyn rob insisted he hadnt been anywhere near new york when she disappeared. And he was worried, concerned she hadnt been online for days. Meanwhile, remy was at home fuming wondering if there was more to jens secret life online. Do you believe she was having an affair . I can almost guarantee it. I think thats what happened on december 11. She went to meet someone. Despite the blood found in the van, remy clung to hope she was alive. He asked for help from a missing persons organization. They blanketed the area with flyers. Remy says he couldnt take the not knowing anymore. You actually enlisted a psychic to help you. What harm could it do . The psychic believed that jen was still alive, so remy says he wanted to keep the search going. To do that he posted frequent updates on facebook and gave an interview to the local news speaking directly to jen. I dont think you ever ever knew how much we care for you and how much youre loved. He was alone with three kids and i thought he was grasping at anything that he could get to feel like maybe his wife was out there still. The new year didnt bring any new leads. The winter snow was piling up. And underneath it all, another secret. This one so explosive, it could not stay hidden for long. Some people are going to remember you as being the worst kind of friend to jen. You know, you cant take back what youve done. Coming up the revelation that would put jens best friend at the very center of this case. Thats kind of a bombshell. Its a big bombshell, yes. And hidden in all that snow, the discovery everyone had been dreading. 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Had one of them come to upstate new york looking for her . Detective cobb was checking out the alibi of the brit jen had been flirting with online the one she wanted to meet in person. Anybody was a suspect in the beginning of the investigation. Rob and anybody else that she may have had contact with. The detective asked u. S. Immigration to run a check on robs passport. The agency reported back. Rob had not entered the United States in 2012. So rob from the fantasy game was quickly cleared, and no longer a potential suspect. But still remy was convinced shed met up with someone. I told that to the police many times. Many times. And do you think it was a direct link to these online games . Absolutely. Remy made no secret of how hurt and angry he was with jen. But instead of getting sympathy from his best friend jason, he got some words of wisdom. You see, jason knew about a secret, and it was a big one. Why are you still mad at the possibility that she was having an affair . Remy youve been having an affair yourself. Thats right. Mad as he was about jens online romance, hed been cheating on her. And remys affair had been going on right under jens nose with the last person on earth she would ever expect. Her best friend, eileen. In my heart, and in my stomach, i knew it was wrong. This is your wifes best friend. Oh yes. The girl scout troop leader. Oh yes. Very bad mistake. The affair began nearly a year before jen disappeared. She asked if i could kiss ker, and i did. And we both felt extremely guilty. Did you kiss him back . Did ii did. And then i left just like that. Some people would have been shocked. Shocked and said what are you doing . Jens my best friend. Why are you doing this . Right. What was your gut telling you . My gut was telling me, no, you cant do this. Its wrong. So wrong. Despite that, they had sex. In jen and remys house not long after that first kiss. Did you feel any guilt at consummating this relationship in the house that you share with your wife . I know i should say yes, but i didnt. Jen and i had already grown apart. Did you talk to jen about getting a divorce . Yes. Oh yes. A handful of different times. Eileen says all of those marathon training sessions together drove them into each others arms. And for eileen, at least, it was more than just physical. Even though she was married herself, she was falling in love with remy. We had a lot in common you know like with the running. And the feelings for him took over and just filled my head. You seem a little out of remys league. What was it about him that you were so attracted to . His personality was huge. I mean, always lifted you up. Always. Made you feel important. But eileen was racked with guilt. She was hiding the affair from her best friend and her husband. Thats a lot of sneaking around. Yeah. I couldnt take it. I couldnt it was too much. It got to be too much. Did he say to you, im going to divorce jen . He said it, yeah. Did that make you happy . No. No, because i knew it would hurt her. During the affair eileen and her husband separated. But then in november she broke it off with remy. And moved back home. Still, she and remy got togeth