Thu Jul 29, 2021 “She says she’s non-binary.” The speaker was a gay friend of mine. It was Saturday night, and we were at a bar in the small Norwegian town where we both live. He pointed to our waitress, a 20-ish blonde who was flirting with some of the younger guys. “What are you talking about?” I asked. The weekend before, my friend explained, the waitress had tried to bond with him by stating that she, too, in her way, was “queer.” Specifically, “non-binary.” In fact, she’s obviously nothing of the kind. Like countless other young folks these days, she’s a full-fledged, card-carrying heterosexual girl who’s been taught to see gender identity as a smorgasbord.