What to do if your performance review goes really wrong 16 May, 2021 10:14 PM 6 minutes to read While you can't control what your boss will say, you can control your own reactions. Photo / 123RF While you can't control what your boss will say, you can control your own reactions. Photo / 123RF Harvard Business Review By: Shyamli Rathore According to the analytics company Gallup, many of us let our jobs define our self-worth. We want to be respected and honoured for who we are, and our work plays a substantial role in this equation. Any negative messages we receive about our performance hugely affect our self-esteem, both in and outside the office.