Waiting in the Wings: The Real You Personal change that lasts requires a secret ingredient: You getting to know you. Wellness activist Haile Thomas explains how to look inside yourself—and enjoy the view. Updated On Jan 22, 2021 Published On January 21, 2021 Written By Mitra Malek Last year was tumultuous—a day-to-day reckoning with many unknowns. If you feel lost as the new year begins, unsure of what goals to set, don’t despair. Confusion can be a necessary precursor to becoming more authentic versions of ourselves, and abiding by our true selves is what we really need when it comes to goal-setting.