through. beyond just us, i hope there's a message and a reminder about american patriotism. charles served happily and gladly for our country, for our constitution and our ideals, for all of us as americans, and some soldiers do that and to remind us that we are the united states of america, and if we cannot live up to that ideal, then we should change our name. >> you write that he was the most honorable man you have ever known but you also said he was the most complex. what do you want people to know about him? >> any long-term relationship has ups and downs, and i wrote in the book very honestly about him because i didn't want people to think our relationship was a fairytale, it was perfect. it was real. it wasn't perfect. it was the best relationship i've had in my entire life. in fact, i had young girls reading my book who one in particular wrote to me and said i now know how to choose a