go through a strained relationship. those families are having a harder time. also it's worth noting on the, in the picture we've seen of her giving her message, you see a picture of the cambridges, but not harry and megamann. they're spending christmas in canada. so maybe we'll find out more but i bet the queen, she likes to kind of drop clues in this message without actually explaining what she means. >> english tea is especially good this time of year. so let's talk about the -- usually, the in laws would spend christmas together with the queen instead, you have the sus exs who are in canada. >> nose of us mere mortals, what you would often do is alternate between maybe your husband or wife's parents or your parents. when you're part of the royal