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Of course my fear was that he had died, but i hoped he hadnt. Reporter a horrifying discovery. The moment Sheryl Sandberg found her husband, dave goldberg, in a pool of blood while on vacation in mexico. At first we thought dave had died by falling off an exercise machine. My brothers a neurosurgeon, he kept telling me, that is not true, that is not what happened, something happened to make him fall in the first place. Reporter hes suffered a cardiac arrythmia and the facebook c. O. O. , the women who always seemed so sure of herself, felt utterly lost. Suddenly a widow, she had to fly home to break the tragic news to their children. Sitting down with my 7yearold daughter and 10yearold son and telling them, youre never going to see your father again is something i could not even imagine. From the very beginning i tried to tell my kids to respect their feelings. Its okay if you cry. Its okay did you feel sad or jealous of other children who have fathers. Its also okay to laugh and be happy because daddy would want that for you. Reporter their daddy was the widely beloved ceo of survey monkey. 47yearold goldberg and she were silicon valleys ultimate power couple. Dave was my rock. He always was the one to tell me everything would be okay. He was brilliant, so generous. To this day i meet people that i dont even know. Theyll say, dave changed my life. Let me ask you about your necklace, a very special piece of jewelry. This is daves ring. I started wearing it from the beginning. To me its a symbol of dave and his impact on my life. Also my friends who really stepped in to help take care of me. Reporter one of those friends, facebook founder mark zuckerberg. Mark was one of the first people i called from the hospital when i knew dave had died. He was at my house with his wife priscilla the next day. Theyve showed up for me and my children, they took us on on vacation, they come over to play games. Theyre still doing it. Reporter the author of lean in found herself having to lean on others. She felt emotionally ostracized by her grief. I felt no one was talking to me. Id drop off kids at school and the friendly his i had with parents, i think people were so scared to say the wrong thing, they said nothing at all. Reporter it became the elephant in the room. She decided to share her anguish as millions of users do, on facebook. Ive gained a more profound understanding of what it is to be a mother, both through the depth of the agony i feel when my children scream and cry, and from the connection my mother has to my pain. The heartbreaking post has garnered nearly 1 million likes and more than 74,000 comments. What was the reaction . It really helped. It like broke open the floodgate. People didnt only show support for me, they showed support for other people. After that post people started talking to me. Reporter that was just the beginning. Its as if the tech executive set out to hack the grieving process, summarized in one piece of advice. A few weeks after dave died, i was talking to my friend phil about a father son activity. I said to phil, i want dave to do this with our children. And phil said, well option a is not available so lets kick the out of option b. Reporter option b. Facing adversity, brilliance, and finding joy. Its not just a book. Its a growing Online Community support group. You realize there are all these people who are suffering in silence and in isolation. I think the post gave people an outlet to connect and build community. Reporter adam grant is known as the most popular psychology professor at wharton. His specialty, resilience. Why was adam the perfect coauthor of this book . Well, i didnt turn to adam to be a coauthor, i turned to adam as a friend. Reporter sandberg says when she returned to facebook her legendary confidence was sapped. Youre one of the most powerful women in the world, youre supposed to be the epitome of confidence. It never occurred to me that losing dave would trash my selfconfidence in other areas. I was going to work, i could barely get through a meeting without thinking about dave or crying. How could i do my job . How is that possible . Its called secondary loss. They cant focus. They are feeling uncontrollable emotions. They feel like other people are seeing them as fragile. And that leads to a lot of selfdoubt. Reporter option b, essentially a handbook for overcoming trauma. Looking for pinpoints of light in the darkness. Adam suggested that i write down three moments of joy in a journal every night before i go to bed. My coffee tasted great this morning. My daughter gave me a hug. Spontaneously, without being asked. My son told a funny story. Even if those are tiny little moments, even if theyre tiny moments of joy in the midst of great grief, you have them. As a psychologist, what do you know about the need to sort of express oneself . There have been hundreds of experiments showing if you journal about a traumatic event, even just for 15 minutes, not only does your Mental Health improve, also your physical health improves. Reporter amidst what feels like unending despair the key is to stop blaming yourself and learn to live life with gratitude. Im grateful. I do not believe that i ever was grateful for life. I never thought dave wouldnt grow old. Now i am grateful for every day. Reporter her newfound perspective even making her rethink some of her advice in lean in. Reframing her views on single motherhood. Addressing the criticism of privilege. We need to do better for single mothers. 37 of single mothers in this country are living in poverty. 40 if youre black or hispanic. And thats unacceptable. That means that were not preventing adversity and it means were not helping people through hardship. And we absolutely need to do better. Reporter facebook has since improved its alreadygenerous leave policies, doubling the number of bereavement days. While shes received a course of praise for sharing her pain so publicly, there are inevitably a few detractors. How do you shut down the naysayers who might say, oh, isnt it too soon to write a book . Everyone grieves in their own way. In their own time. And i want something good to come out of this tragedy. Reporter she has found moments of joy, even has a boyfriend. In fact, it was her motherinlaw who gave her blessing. Daves mother did the most profound thing as you were clearing out his closet. She did. She said, and one day you will remarry. Something i hadnt even thought about, dating, at all. You talk about it in the book. This double standard. That when a woman, a widow, starts to date, theres a lot of judgment and eyebrows raised. We judge people who date, particularly women, after their spouse has died. And i found dave and i wanted to spend my life with dave. And i thought i would. But i dont have that choice. And so when we judge people who lost their spouses for trying to find happiness any way they do, including dating, we really hurt their recovery. And im hoping option b gives people the permission they deserve to rediscover joy. Reporter and rediscover ambition. Sandberg sits on the board of disney, our parent company, and there is seemingly endless fascination with her future career moves. Its always in the air, talk of like, oh, Sheryl Sandbergs going to be the next ceo of the next big shining company. Or shes going to run for the white house. Do you think donald trump should be worried . Im not running for office. I really love my job at facebook. Mark and i were close before, but after he supported me the way he did through this theres no one id ever want to work with the way i work with mark. I also, and i know this sounds silly, believe more deeply in facebooks mission. Facebook in many ways is where our memories are now. You wrote about the song from wicked. The one that says, for good. Because i knew you, ive been changed. Because i knew you because i knew you i have been changed for good i was changed by dave goldberg. I had the joy of being his wife. I had the unbelievable opportunity to have children with him and watch him parent, parent with him for 10 years. And i was changed by his death. Im sadder than i was before. I still have this huge reservoir of sadness and i still miss him so much. Im also closer with my friends and family and people like mark than i ever thought possible. But i can appreciate every moment i have with my children. And maybe through this book i can help other people appreciate that they have those moments now too. Up next, this isnt your moms morning show. Why Charlamagne Tha God is speaking truth to breakfast. Later, the magic of willy wonka. Its made it to broadway and we have your Golden Ticket to charlie and the chocolate factory. Charlie and the chocolate factory. 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Hes just crazy. Reporter hes one of the brashest voices in american pop culture. Nothing about you says faithful to a man, nothing. Thats [ bleep ]. Im totally faithful. Reporter the say anything to anyone hiphop deejay Charlamagne Tha God. Are you notoriously late on purpose . I dont know, im doing better with this. I heard that youre banging every white woman in hollywood oh, man. Reporter cohost of what he calls the worlds most dangerous morning show. Yall saying my name, put some respect on it. Im putting up with you, [ bleep ]. Im the radio guy, dont act tough with the radio guy. [ bleep ]. Reporter the Breakfast Club syndicated in more than 70 markets nationwide. Whats something that you always carry with you . Hot sauce. Reporter hes gone head to head with hillary clinton. People are going to say, okay, shes pandering to black people. Is it working . Reporter hes taken on artists like kanye west. Kanye kardashian is in the building. You know what makes me not buy your albums . The new narcissistic egotistical personality turns me off. You ever get nervous about it . Kanye west sits down in the chair, you know youre going to call him kanye kardashian, you dont like his most recent album. You get a little sweaty about that . No, i dont. Because i know its not coming from a malicious place. I know im not trying to be mean. Youre not trying to be mean . No. Because those are things that ive said about kanye when he wasnt here. Right, but isnt that mean . No. Saying to somebody if thats the case siskel and ebert are two of the meanest people that existed on this planet. Fair enough. I dont think he liked the kardashian thing, that seemed like a bit of a taunt. Then hes got to stop acting like a kardashian. Reporter charlamagne like his namesake is now building an empire, one that goes well beyond onair trash talking. He hosted a live show on mtv2 called uncommon sense where he weighs in on politics. Former speechwriter for president barack obama, mr. John pavro is here. Reporter also a weekly podcast called brilliant idiots. A new book with a provocative title. Black privilege. What do you mean by that . Simply put, i think that its a privilege to be black. As black people we have access to a divine system that enables us to get through a lot of the obstacles that are thrown at us in america. And helps us to prosper in spite of everything that weve been through. Do white people not have access to the divine system that youre describing . That can be debatable, but they do. I feel privilege is divine. Youre not denying white you look at inbe cars race rates, economic outcomes, education outcomes, those numbers are significant. Its absolutely real. Im not trying to negate White Privilege at all, im not trying to let america and white people off the hook for everything theyve done to oppress and marginalize various communities, especially the black community in america. All im saying is were special too. Reporter his book is part selfhelp, part memoir. He grew up as leonard in a small town in the south. The greatest thing the small town gave me is imagination. A small town made me dream. Reporter the small town produced more than a few nightmares during his early years. How many times did you go to jail . Five or six. You were selling crack . Yeah. I never was a bigtime crack dealer, lets be clear. I sold seven grams, a quarter spoon. Seven grams of crack that you can make 100 off each gram. Reporter he got himself clean and started a career in radio. Peace to the planet, it is tuesday reporter where he flourished because of his outsize personality. But radio was tumultuous. How many times did did you get fired. Four times from radio. I got fired four times. Reporter the third time in 2008, he was a cohost on the Wendy Williams show. Are you and wendy on speaking terms . No, i havent talked to wendy in seven years. Why not . Had a fallingout with her husband. Reporter these days charlamagnes career is on solid ground with millions tuning in for his signature daily segment. What is donkey of the day . I give people the credit they deserve for being stupid. Donkey of the day for friday, february 17th, is the celebrity in chief donald j. Trump. How many times has donald trump been condonkey of the day . Oh my god, he leads the pack as far as donkeys by far. You were hugely credit careful him, how is he doing as president . He sucks. And im still hugely critical of him. Come on. Weve seen what hes done his first 100 days in the white house. Its been utter turmoil and confusion. Like you know, hes the president that i knew from day one wasnt interested in building bridges, he wants to build walls. If you want to talk about protecting black communities reporter charlamagne has tried to build bridges, creating a relationship with the young conservative firebrand tomi lahren. Are you friends with tomi lahren . No. Friends is a strong word. Shes a media associate. Youve taken some heat though for this association with her. Oh, man, did i. Reporter many of his fans have been furious he would spend time with somebody like lahren. Do you think its justified . Or are people overreacting . I dont ever have a problem with my Community Checking me. When they think that im moving the wrong way. Because i dont have a problem checking somebody. If i think theyve moving the wrong way. Reporter hes taken hits from all sides but the ambitions of this kid from South Carolina have not faded. As long as im doing my passion with purpose, im going to always be happy. I wake up in the morning happy to come to work. I actually love the game of radio. I love this game. This is what i do. Thats a big deal reporter for nightline, this is dan harris in new york. Up next, it may be broadways sweetest new show. Charlie and the chocolate factory. Wish your skin could bounce back like it used to . Neutrogena® hydro boost water gel. 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Heres abcs paula faris. The candy man makes everything he bakes reporter its the sweetest new show on broadway. Charlie and the chocolate factory. Talk about your childhood wishes reporter in the movie gene wilder of course was willy wonka. Your imagination reporter now played by tony winner christian borrell. If you were to describe your version of willy wonka, who would he be . Probably equal parts bugs bunny, peter allen, peter laurie reporter three different charlies take turns hunting for their Golden Ticket. Whats your favorite line . Dont you . The wonka ripple scrumptious fudge delight is the best chocolate bar ever made reporter John Rubenstein takes on the role of grandpa joe, made famous by Jack Albertson in the movie. He was a big inspiration to me. His big heart. Thats what he showed and thats what i try to show in this role. Reporter and i end my visit the same place the show ends. In the great glass elevator. What do you think all the little kids out there to take away from this production . I hope for them it opens up the idea of imagination. And also to follow sweet charlie buckets lead and be decent and hopeful. To see reporter for nightline im paula faris in new york. The moon from here and how sweet it is. Thanks for watching abc news. Online at abcnews. Com and our nightli and i take my job seriously. While im busy watching the game, i need your help keeping an eye on the stands. If you see something that doesnt look quite right,