with six people in a room. it was hard it was for. i even got white hair. and it hit me a lot this gets me a little but uniquely to interact with the site you want to do their story. it's hard to get reliable information for margaret. out or fall hama suffers from dementia or not a punish tara is his caregiver friends feel like. i miss my family but it is what it is i need money for medication and to support myself here. is from chester covert in poland eastern european caregivers ring a great demand in germany like here in vern our in the southwest of the country that's because few germans want such low paying jobs it's good money for denard but she only goes home to poland every few months. you know you. don't matter tends to adults practically around the clock which means he can keep living at home. yes they had a good night's sleep is an experienced caregiver she helps him with all of his every day needs with patience and good chia. no lives sure who you make these are the answers i've been at his side for six years now almost seven we know each other very well. been i always spent three months in germany and one in poland well that's just how it is. well sounds like things to muffle the caregiving routine has created a strong bond that incites. i don't seems content the eighty year old once worked for the railway he bought his house started a family had two children then his wife passed away five years ago he began showing signs of dementia his daughter often stopped spot on earth is that. how is everything done thank goodness everything is fine. and good handle the paperwork and everything else adult needs the memory loss has turned his life upside down. he used to be full of energy athletic dynamic and helpful and now he needs help and that's something you have to get used to. oh my god it's so hard i could never do this. he says you can tell he doesn't like it and that would make it hard for me. to my heart has everything under control much to put it gets relief or it's these or doc taught almost before did not i was here i had to take care of him for a few days and i found myself in some impossible situations when i had to take care of his personal hygiene. i couldn't do it just isn't it this hobby now they did not is here to look after him and i don't have to do it myself because he can't manage everything of course like when my father falls down the steps but at least he's living at home which is really important decisions consoled me he. has a dog that's mine i don't think my father recognises me anymore but that's just how it is. do you recognize my face right there good. question does he know that i'm right. but if you look at toys you know. that's good you talk about. tanada takes the opportunity to skype with her husband. the conversations seeing him is important for her even if it's just on the computer screen. of long. oh yeah she's also hoping to get a chance to talk to her three children and two grandchildren. none of the years money will go but so much of a adult keeps her busy throughout you know no no no no no please don't sit down. it's an exhausting job and she's already fifty five years old herself. myers has referred to. is a highlight of adults today but it's not clear just how much longer he'll be able to live at home. don't matter stand up to music it reminds her of life in poland and her husband. i. think. i used to dance with my husband often he was a good dancer but not anymore. it was a great time those days are in the past now to nada spends most of the time in germany at old son stops by fergus that what needs doing in the garden will be being outdoors and tending to the garden brings the family together. the reception at once or night we can take care of our father selves because he needs around the clock assistance to rethink your own movie toy involved on this issue that's hard to do when you've got a regular day job. to not a very warm and caring and how she tends to her father does me very good and i wouldn't be that sandra even though or maybe because he's our own father has finished all violence insofar as. then it's time to say they go by as. you know they don't know where to go. and truth just. very different from those she mind of it let's say goodbye to the young man actually. the next day adult and to a heading to your lantus will shop it's become an important meeting point for polish caregivers invent now. your land helps connect german families with polish caregivers they're highly sought after which is good business for your land the regular meeting also helps the caregivers cope with feeling homesick and adult enjoys the company. we meet practically every second or third day sometimes every day so they're not as dependable she looks out for adults. we polish women we cook clean bake we do everything. at your land has the caregivers also get practical help and advice both will remove. the threat of separate but be a truth or fact the fellow to take it up with a really serious. or at all vile hama is better off than many elderly germans who need care he's able to keep living at home that's not financially feasible for many families and many don't have the space at hand it's a good job for janata though being away from her family for months is a high price to pay the room of a student even tired yes that's true i work a lot every day. if you are by three and i miss my family. most but that's how it is so i need the money for medication for my life my apartment them and feel like i've been. here a whole new. here but i'm glad when i go home and see my husband and children. right now. she spent almost three months here without a single day off now she's heading back to poland. you take care of yourself don't forget to eat and drink. blood take care of yourself. some two hundred thousand east european women workers can't give is in germany today many of them are old enough to retire themselves. is just one of many polish can give us on the past. they're exhausted but happy to be heading home. after a seventeen hour bus journey janata has reached chester carver her oldest son patrick is there to pick her up. about his family lives on the outskirts of the city four people in a fifty five square meter apartment. his son alexander is on the couch. there is a girl known here on the whole exam very good i mean first he's not in a very welcoming mood his mother has been gone for three months. but the apartment has been spruced up and the dog is happy to greater. reason go all through the finally her husband less shit returns higher than. he's been a tireless pleasure like adolphine germany suffers from kidney disease. slowly family life gets back into the swing of things. out of habit john murtha speaks to her husband in germany it takes some getting used to being back in poland so much as you approach it like no there's my husband's tired because he's had a five hour dialysis session. but everything's fine. later they head off for a walk in the countryside just the two of them. also i. will say why don't you go. for a few hours they leave their worries behind. you. lovely right here i feel very happy when i'm here i love this place. it's not too crowded and it's so quiet. man if you know where you. live whenever she's back in chester carver don't matter visits the yes no go ramona straight to pray. the good last hour i go to the monastery and thank god that i made it back to poland in good health through dick all. of the journey went well. and that my family is doing well. again how you do i get my strength and my energy from god. well fluid. despite her strength and optimism she feels torn about the latter accepts her situation as it is. that people of the world over w. on facebook and twitter up to date and in touch. follow us. germany state by state. colorful. the liveliest. the most traditional. find it all at any time. check