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And vibrantne my one grandmother died and my grandfather died of the men gesso i know a lot of older people that are kicking it or doing it would be doing the key issue at the it pakistan healthiest . I am with friends and i with my dog. Feeling were going to ha [applause] i have the feeling we will have a little standing ovation. Gning. [inaudible conversations] stennis joining us with the call this session is often err an actor his most recent book is called mixed to read what inspired your book . My son he is a product of a mixed relationship by an africanamerican and his mother is rushing in jewish white woman. As have you had issues . He has not there are more kids that look like him than the other but it was important for me to tell the story because there are so many of their regardless of ethnicity and i feel that kids these days need to know it is okay to have a healthys e selfesteem to love and appreciate oneself. And a second in a series of loose in the character is loosely based on my son. According to a Census Bureau those that i identified to be mixed heritage what are some of those issues that mixeds kids face . It goes on and on. Starters, for starters identification to what and who do they identify there is a lot of club of the 01 to explain that i wanted him to be proud of both his mother and his father in a lot of the African Americans interpreted that to not bes is t called black there is a difference between ethnicity and identity in america if you have black blood you areng to identify to say black so lot of africanamericans to the offense to that when i just said i want my son to be proud and that is an issue some of those six kids were forced to pick what kinds of friends. If you were mixed in hong now with the white kids then there are issues with hair. Metht youre not. People mistaking you for something you are not. I dont know how many times friends of mine and the kids walk up and speak spanish toi m . [laughter] them. It is a an issue and now that i am getting older and doing press for the book of these people who had a certain period of their childhood taken from them because theyre not allowed to identify because they were harassed in schools and some of these stories are sad it is too bad and i understand it but as human beings we need to categorize just for our own edification people instead of just accepting people for who they are. Over the next 20 minutes his book makes read the first book was chocolate me talk about his perspective. You can even contact us by social media you there was a bit mentioned there was problem doing press for the bookrst bla. Everybody refers to him as the first black president im not saying it is wrong matter it would be great if it didnt matter. Do you consider him to be the first black president . Fez is because those have already been set. Police tell my friends not there were black folks thatac were not accepting and now we can except to the web established herself. We as a race we have been put through so much it is confusing. Nd i can understand how people want to find as much asible. Possible i get that but some point that will have to end. Where do you draw the line . And mended our entire lives it is unfair. And then we have to refine. Do you think because of your notoriety that perhaps your son has an easier time. We will probably say yes only we have a little bit of money here and elsewhere diversity is paramount. I dont know what his experience would be to go to a Public School i dont know. But what i do know, regardless of who i am we will come across some problems in some kids whether college or high school to ask with whom he identified as. But everybody getting so upset for me it just makes sense that when it comes to ethnicity people take it very seriously. We have to try to move on. I will try to stay positive. We have always to go in there very hopeful to come from a place of understanding people can give very angry has to be put into a defensive mode. Im trying to understand as we try to understand that we can all watch community. Would you like to write a Childrens Book . What is the numberone rule . I dont know. Fu it has to be fun i am glad i found my own riding with them approaching with a best friend a call the my cousin. And that is awesome. To the words and i have come up with like opening presents on christmas morning. You have seen him in private practice and the good life as well. The first call for him is from missouri. Caller good morning. My granddaughter is absolutely beautiful and in eighth grade. We have a different problem here in our school with her. E a, and white kids have the accepted her but the black kids get her into trouble. Lot f yes we have a lot of prejudice that is was surprised us. Day you have any explanation for that . There are tons of people out there that can relate that. That family has to go through that but but as theyn said earlier to be work . Disenfranchised . An is to have those issues and wanting to include for good reason based on how they speak and how that plays into and once again it can be personal it can be harmful. Go ahead we are listening. My question is how do you feel about the psychologicalal effects of blacks in america who dont subscribe to be african . I will tell you what did you hear from the call . To know where i in this gentleman wants to know africanamericans and unidentified and. That is an interesting question once again we make up the rules as we go along and the difficulty with that there is no real right to or made wrong that is the major airport i have never been to africa that is maya lineage but that is a term we can up with so it is hard to speak on Something Like that when there is no answer that is when people needed to feel unified and strong and powerful. I getting it then you start to run into a bump in the road those that want exact answers when it comes to ethnicity and prejudice there are no exact answers. The last two calls were from the misery of the next two are from california to think those issues are the same out here in Southern California . Sure. Thats one t is all over. One thing you can always count on unfortunately you can always count on people to draw lines and want to