i couldn't not write about it and ended up with a book four years later. >> now a contributor to online magazines and author of a memoir she wants to make writing and teaching her full time career. >> my next bold move is to break into acadamia. >> she has been a visiting professor at a major university in the past and today she is teaching a one day writer's workshop. >> what's step two? >> i love everything about teaching. i love conveying wisdom and research i love thinking about what can make a fun lecture. >> why is it so hard to write a great sex scene. forget the fancy words and just tell it straight. your characters want to get laid more than anything and what happens when you want to get laid more than anything is sometimes you or your characters get rejected. it's earth shattering insecurity. that's what i want to see in your characters. >> where are we going to see you in ten years? >> hopefully a traveling author