knowing that you will make it. you'll become stronger because of it. you'll never know why but you can't dwell on the bad times, fall on the good times. if you can reach out and help someone else in any way, that's part of the healing process and the ability to talk about it. if you don't talk, you won't heal, you can't stuff it. >> your husband, i believe, has been in contact with adam lanza's father. does he give any insight into how he's been coping with what happened? >> like any of us, it's been a real trial. my heart goes out to peter. i can only imagine what he is enduring. it was his son. i can't imagine it being one of my boys. i would be devastated. his life is changed forever. he will never be the same. and i'm sure whatever actions peter goes, he's a good person. he's a good man. he is a survivor.