myself now married to them beuse life happens, experiences happen. and what you want changes. i think it is quite a bit of pressure. i think you should be preaching a measure of finding balance between career and personal life and that you can have it all. >> in fact, you know, earlier, i'll get to you gentlemen in a second there was a princeton grad on our air earlier, and this is what she -- we don't have that, sorry. she was saying she wasn't necessarily in agreement with what susan patton had to say. steve let me ask you. what advice would you be giving your daughter? would you be giving her the same kind of advice as susan patton is giving to princeton ladys? >> i would tell my daughter to do what my daughter wants to do. i wouldn't be making a blanket statement saying, hey, you need to be married by this point and got to start looking for a man now or anything like that. and it is worth noting that her son is actually a current princeton student. so perhaps she's actually just helping him find a date. >> one is a grad and one is a current student. hal, how do you see it?