diana would use the kind of soft power, very feminine power. she'd realized that despite not having overt drive, overt ambition, she had something else. >> in the '80s, still around aristocratic society and within the royal family, as a woman, you still wanted to be perceived as unblemished, as a virgin, as, you know, not having a lot of gossip around you. >> there had been so many wonderful young women in charles's life at that point, but it was expected of charles to marry someone that came from a certain social strata, that ticked all the boxes. yes, she was expected to be a virgin. >> in july, 1980, diana's life