diana would use a kind of soft power, very feminine power. she realized that despite not having overt drive, overt ambition, she had something else. >> in the '80s, still around aristocratic society and within the royal family as a woman you still wanted to be perceived as unblemished, as virgin, as, you know, not having a lot of gossip around you. >> there had been so many wonderful young women in charles' life at that point, but it was expected of charles to marry someone that came from a certain social strata, that ticked all the boxes. yes, she was expected to be a virgin. >> in july 1980 diana's life begins to change dramatically.