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News at 7 o'clock I'm Christian Good morning it's being reported a whole strobes the one year old with brain damage at the center of a court fight over his long term care has died the little boy's father has told The Sun he passed away last night after doctors switched off his ventilator yesterday as parents had 4 to the high courts to stop doctors from ending his life support and European judges throughout their last ditch appeal earlier this week counterterrorism officers are trying to identify the source of a nerve agent used to poison a former Russian spy and his daughter in Salzburg so gay and you yes cripple of being critically ill in hospitals and being found unconscious on a bench in Salzburg a policeman who went to help is also in intensive care so Tony Brenton is a former British ambassador to Moscow as the evidence has accumulated over the last 2 days particularly this conclusion this was a sophisticated of age and it points more and more clearly to Russian state action they have both motivation that the victim was already been accused person by person actually being a traitor and they are one of the very few agencies in the world who deployed this sort of poison actually is a matter of routine Thames Water says it's dealing with a major burst in the Herne Hill area this morning they've been working through the night it would say some residents in the se $24.00 area may still be within the running water or experiencing low pressure as being localized outages across London since the weekend including in Marlow been Stratham hell and tooting yesterday. Detectives investigating the fatal stabbing of a 20 year old man in Albert Road in Croydon on Monday have charged a man with his murder 19 year old Tyrone son from South Norwood will appear before Croydon Magistrates Court this morning a 15 year old boy has been bailed in connection with the offense domestic abusers could be banned from drinking alcohol and electronically tagged as part of new government plans to crack down on the problem the Home Office has outlined measures including the 1st statutory definition of this kind of abuse as well as new domestic abuse protection orders Casey goes is the chief executive of the charity Women's Aid which supports victims of abuse in Africa it's an epidemic we just have . Women and. Children who are invested you know. Crying and that needs to be recognised by the police and the criminal justice important domestic everyone person there and Saudi Arabia have announced plans for a 65000000000 pound trade and investment package during series of May's meeting with the country's crown prince to reason may and Mohamed bin Salmond's talks a Downing Street also touched on the Yemen crisis which Saudi Arabia is still involved in yesterday demonstrators took part in protests over Saudi Arabia's human rights record or there's a warning that many councils in England will become financially unsustainable if they continue to rely on their savings to help fund the increasing demands of social care the National Audit Office says the money councils receive from central government has been cut by nearly 50 percent since 2010 he believes that if local authorities keep using their reserves to make ends meet then one in 10 will run out of money within 3 years Eileen Murphy is from the n.a.o. What we're seeing is demand pressures in social care the number of people 65 and over is growing in the population so that in the month pressures on local authorities. And the records precious to the national living wage increases and national trends contributions and so on so they've got less money they've got more to do with it because of demand pressures and cost pressures as well the Liberal Democrat leader and m.p. For talking observance Cable has the prime minister to take a tougher stance with the European Union over the treatment of Gibraltar in the BRICs and negotiations Brussels has given Spain the power to block any deal between the e.u. And the u.k. On the fate of the territory where a large number of financial services companies are based sport and the top the Baltimore Patino says he believed they were the better side last night as they were knocked out of the Champions League in the last 16 which adventures came back from a goal down at Wembley to reach the quarterfinals for Siri on aggregate winning 21 on the Knights in the 2nd leg and now with a look at London's weather Here's Elizabeth with Seanie roll the damp under foot to start this morning we had quite a bit of rain last night in the early rain is clearing is late eastwards by the time we get to say 9 o'clock then it should be a dry picture right across the capital and it will start to brighten up but it will feel quite windy today some gusts of wind through the middle part of the morning perhaps reaching 30 to 40 miles an hour say sunny spells and the chilled some want to see showers as we head through the afternoon perhaps but of hail involved in some of the a showers as well particular out towards western areas temperatures a little bit cooler than they were yesterday between $8.11 degrees Celsius every night tonight much lighter winds clear skies temperatures will drop plenty enough to get a Touch of Frost particularly in the more rural spots maybe a few early mist patches forming to see tomorrow day for most of us a nice bright starts and sunshine 3 the morning but rain by Friday evening b.b.c. Radio London it's 5 minutes past 7. Hours about London's right for show on London's radio station weekday mornings from 7 b.b.c. Radio is International Women's Day to Day Do we have cause to celebrate what do we want for our daughters and our granddaughter is how much. Potential have we fulfilled will be a debate in the Commons later on gender equality and you see his dump today women's pay day they say this is the day women start getting paid day $67.00 of the year compared with male colleagues who get paid on day one this is the most press for progress and ties in with movements like me 2 in Time's up this morning I'll be joined live in the studio by glittering a ray of inspirational women a baronet an entrepreneur a novelist a documentary filmmaker and a Grammy award winner but I really want to hear from you about life in London and how it's in any way to change for women who have been the inspirational women in your life and. 7 224-2000 Also this morning the government's on new measures to crack down on domestic abuses the domestic abuse bill proposes tougher sentences when children are affected by abuse and for the very 1st time it will include economic abuse that means when a partner withholds a victim's money. From walking in the running music faith the enemy is appearing in print for the last time this week recently it's been distributed as a free magazine and from now on it'll be available on time your memories and thoughts and. $7.00 to $2.00 for 2000. More ning to you bid you a very warm welcome to today's b.b.c. Radio London breakfast say I'm Vanessa Feltz the time is 7 minutes past 7 It's Thursday the date to March and I'm absolutely sure the not the last time today you will hear that today's International Women's Day And what we're asking really on the program is what does that mean to you if and I think 2 things important to recognize women recognize women's achievement to promote the success of women to make sure and monitor women's progress and that women all purpose you know appropriately paid to pay. We recognize the most important given the chance to realize that potential our potential I'm a woman I should say out there shouldn't I that's what we're discussing this morning International Women's Day and what it means to you and what it means for all of us to have 72242000 is the number and the getting way of different women from all different walks of life coming in to talk about their path that career parlous their feelings about being a woman in 2018 and what that means in terms of fulfilling your potential now we have a new story for you this morning domestic abuses could be banned from drinking alcohol and electronically tagged this is all is part of new plans to crack down on the problem economic abuse when someone stops a partner from working or forces them to take out a loan for example will also be made a criminal offense for the 1st time Katie goes is chief executive of the charity Women's Aid which supports victims of abuse and she told month Forest earlier she welcomed the proposals I think but it may. Be a Power Point and bring about a step change in how as a society we respond to domestic peace and to give you an example we know that many by that they way you feel able to report to the place. They are trying desperately to access specialist support services to get the help they need We've heard about the the criminal justice measures and we welcome many and I'm joined in the studio by Katie ways to leverage a book about her experiences in an abusive relationship it's called How to Leave a bully a step by step guide Welcome to the studio so nice to meet you thank you for coming morning I mean gosh haven't you been through a terribly difficult time but it was a difficult time for me it was a while ago. But I was able to. Capture some of my experience in my book and hopefully help people who will say trapped in the domestic abuse cycle some people wonder how women in particular we know some men are in a domestic vs relationships as well of course but the predominant number of victims are women and some who wonder how one enters into that kind of relationship in the 1st place so maybe you'll give us an example you are an example Firstly it can happen to anybody all walks of life. You don't realize it's going to happen to you you think it isn't and you often in a situation is you fall in love with somebody but there's some personality traits that you're aware of but you believe you can change them and obviously you can't win your case what were the jealousy probably the main thing. He. He was he was a bully I suffered from psychological abuse not physical abuse but whilst it's not life threatening it can be the victim so unsure of yourself lacking in self-confidence you know self-confidence and you end up after a long period of time and then t. Shall Lily I mean Nigella Lawson talked about psychological abuse didn't she other after she left Charles Saatchi of those photographs of him with his hands around her throat yes I'm a fair she then said that she had been the victim of psychological abuse not some people hadn't heard of that it didn't really know what that meant so you say that you were bullied psychologically and you give a couple of examples of the way in which you have and I can I at 1st I would say it's quite difficult and I discuss this a lot I do work with women Sade. For women also suffering from domestic abuse and we often say that the examples that you give sound very very trivial to other people they sound futile you know in a normal relationship these examples wouldn't cause an issue but in a bullying relationship they are a big deal so for instance if you said the wrong type of dinner if you have the wrong friends and if you say you like a certain t.v. Program they sound very very trivial but they can cause such. Such sort of devastating effect on on you and the relationship and in my situation for example I might say I like to certain t.v. Presenter Yeah that would cause maybe a week of not not being spoken to not being looked at not being acknowledged or an interrogation as to why I like that particular person did I fancy them what was wrong. Me. I would be forced to analyze my own actions and obviously I haven't done anything wrong so you just carry on analyzing me you never find anything because that's the point you make you lose the essence of yourself because next time you felt like saying something you just change you know you continually change itself it never gets better because the laws be something else that comes up but you continually undermining your own personality in order to stop the this horrible wave of. Bullying did you have children in the relation Yes I have 2 girls fantastic they're in their twenty's and I mean I'm I mean people listening will just wonder you know you say oh I like such and such on the tie like Alan Titchmarsh something or like you know I I really like this new format of the news and then your husband won't speak to you cause your thought mercilessly interrogated makes life absolutely hellish for you makes you question your very identity your intelligence your competent Yes makes you feel lacking in every possible way people will wonder why would you stay in that relationship with somebody who could inflict that level of emotional suffering or you know how could you like that person how could you fancy that person certainly how could you love that person when you could see how unloving they were being to you and why would you know without a credit card in the car just think well I don't like you're making my love horrible and I'm leaving Why not take a well firstly obviously they've undermined your own logical thinking you don't think you love the person and you want to hold on to the relationship and you fundamentally believe that it will get better you continually think it will get better this will go away if I change if I do this it will get better very often when I speak to women in the same situation we've got told you want to protect the children you want you want this idea of this happy family you're able to present that to the outside world you've got to present a glossy image everything's fine you know you can hold down a successful job but at home is complete. Be different and you don't want anyone to see that and so you become enormously protective of what you've got is wrong is working against Yes And what was the turning point for me I was with my husband for 10 years and it was the same thing throughout the whole 10 years from beginning to end I was poorly a lot I I had tonsilitis have such a lot which I think is a result of of being under this stress over time and I had my tonsils out and I was in hospital and I had a moment of peace or hamsters very noisy The television was on all the time. And I wasn't able to have space in my own head to think my own thoughts 3 and I have heard I think it is true that Nigella Lawson used to have to take a taxi to read a book oh quite probably it may not be true and I didn't inject ability literally understand I have a low enough piece to read a book because I've heard it yes yes yes that sounds quite plausible. So for me I had I was in hospital I'd had my tonsils out and I was lying there in this very very peaceful room and it was a real lightbulb moment I just thought I can go it was almost like seeing gates open in front main and literally 2 weeks later I left I had had counselling prior to that 3 years before but that was not with the intention of leaving and have you been able to lead a life that has been peaceful since oh my gosh yes lady you would you know. Immediately his situation was weak which surprised me I wasn't expecting that I couldn't imagine when I was with him and life on the other side I thought he would be worse. But immediately his situation was weaker and I was so much stronger and I took strength every day from how I was feeling and over time you have to give yourself time I began to find myself again and I found a way of dealing with him he died 10 years after I left him and that was in 2012 so while ago now but that's how I came to write the book because everything. Had been through our to blocked it away had a great time we married had a son. But everything that happened to me came back to me when when he died and it was lack of a wave of emotion and I had to find a way of dealing with that I'm so interested now when you have to say and I know they'll be many people listening who will be very very keen indeed to have a look at the book in the book is called How to Leave a bully a step by step guide and it's by my guest Katie waste a very good luck to thank you very much like Sharon yet you told it absolutely in lightning actually really with real charm and real very very vivid way thank you so much it's a this is a new law in domestic abuse if you want to give us a call on that and I we're aware that when we discuss a subject sometimes people can't get to the phone because they don't want to be out by the partner so we're aware of that if you want to give your real name of course that's absolutely fine otu are 72242000 will be straight back to after the travel. 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Straight to 2 is the key to this ridiculous heritage of there being tears at every juncture they are quite possible suspects are bad ever done. In my life is from the Americans that is God It would. Be just a job I mean it was this Islam. Is b.b.c. Radio London. We love to listen welcome to b.b.c. Radio London's breakfast stay with me Vanessa Feltz It's International Women's Day today what does that mean to you if anything do you think it's very important to acknowledge the achievements of women to promote the achievements of women to claim that the gender pay gap to make sure that your daughters your granddaughters and great granddaughters fulfil their potential do you think it's extremely important to have a day like International Women's Day would you think the whole thing is just lost in the. Last of different days International poll I week international tail tipping week or whatever it is maybe think there are too many of these things you're not really into it doesn't do it for you well we are celebrating International Women's Day today in the company of a galaxy really of illustrious women in all different walks of life from all different backgrounds and we kick off with barrenness Altman roles all women financial expert she was pensions minister under David Cameron 2015 to 2016 press the progress is the has been used for International Women's Day today one of the themes will be the gender pay gap the 2 you see according to day women's pay day saying the 18 percent pay gap means women start getting paid today day $67.00 of the year compared with the average male employee who gets paid on day one of the barn assortment joins me on the line good morning good morning Vanessa how do you feel about International Women's Day I'm really proud that we're celebrating it and I think also it's fantastic for us to remind ourselves how much progress women have made I know there's further to go but when you think that 100 years ago women were fighting just to get a vote. In our elections and if you look at what's happened subsequently women have made huge strides but as we both know. There's plenty more progress to make certainly in in my spe