To have and to hold or maybe not Thursday June 03 2021 Advertisement With time I have realised that maybe clerics should let people write their own vows because surely this business of echoing what the pastor, priest, reverend, bishop or imam says is turning many into liars. I know that at the moment of exchanging the vows, the couple is so excited that they can vow to do anything for each other. Reality however, kicks in when the wedding excitement finally expires. Marriage will not always be a honeymoon that is why you should enjoy it when you can. When you get married, the world does not come to a standstill. No my dear. Once you get back from cloud nine, you will realise that theperson you married is human. The ring will not change anything.