Outtakes: Are golden years all that golden? Frank Weaver Jr. Suburbanite correspondent When you're the oldest male sibling in a family of 11, you learn more about life from living it. With a deaf father and no older brothers to question, heaven forbid you'd wouldn't dare ask an older sister about the mysteries of life. Growing up, no one ever said the golden years were all that golden. Nor did anyone say they weren't. Those tidbits of life you learn on your own. Instead, we're told to work our derriere's off for a chance to sit back in later years to enjoy the fruits of our labor. But what's expected in life seems to remain that way, while in reality we're hit with the unexpected, day in and day out.