Musa Okwonga: âBoys donât learn shamelessness at Eton, it is where they perfect itâ âI think it is unlikely many of my contemporaries have had a close black friend, and so I donât want to conform to any stereotypes,â Musa Okwonga writes. Photograph: Kasia Zacharko/The Guardian âI think it is unlikely many of my contemporaries have had a close black friend, and so I donât want to conform to any stereotypes,â Musa Okwonga writes. Photograph: Kasia Zacharko/The Guardian The writer and podcaster talks about his private school days, and why a system that prides itself on creating leaders is selling Britain short