It was the little girl who learned the first. The 12year old, she was there at the beginning when the Family Secret was born. Why did it get started . I didnt know what else to do. Why did she keep it so long . She was all i had. While evil did its work. We couldnt stand it. What with the secret to . Everybody has a secret or two, but this . Hello, and welcome to dateline. It wasnt uncommon for him to be gone for days at a time. He was a longhaul truck driver. Or, did he run off with another woman. When lloyd for disappeared it was almost anybodys guess where he went. At least two people knew and it was a secret they guarded for 27 years. The terrible truth was about to be revealed. Here is Keith Morrison with the Family Secret. , yes, families. I suppose you could say this one, the family, the secret, get started in the middle of nowhere. Which is what they like to call it here. It wasnt so surprising, perhaps, one young lloyd ford was done with school , he had joined the navy and sailed off to see the world from an aircraft carrier. This man at the center of the secret. Sandy burke is his eldest daughter. My dad was a fun guy. He was funloving. He loved people. People loved him. People tended to gravitate toward him. Especially women. That was not a secret. When lloyd went back after his stint in the navy, one of the hometown girls caught his eye at the county fair. Before long, they were married. And, that is how sandy came along, and her little sister pamela who loved her dad. Apparently was not the only one. All the women here had huge crashes on him and his brother. Ive always heard he had to have a woman in his life. When lloyd and their family took their out west, was to get away from some other woman. That is where little tommy was born. Lloyd learn to be a family man. He loved fishing. He would take us fishing and we would bring fish home or no fish home. Its what we had for breakfast. We did. And then . The kids are always the last to know what happened. It wasnt long before their mom packed them up and headed back to nebraska. Sometimes in divorces, a child will take one side or the other, and i took my moms. My dad was the bad guy. My dad did something to make my mom leave. They loved him, even when he started courting a new woman, judy, twice divorced. Three kids of her own including kimberly, her only daughter, who , all in all, was happier in the rare occasions when there was no man around her mother. I liked it best when it was just her and the boys and i. No husband. Her attention would focus. And lose her. When a new man came along, what was she like . They were it. We got fed and taken care of and you know the norm. It was all about them. In 1973, it was all about lloyd. They married and then divorced. Then remarried. They tried to pretend a Brady Bunch Life and this House On Clark Street in boise, idaho. Lloyd drove longhaul trucks. Judy styled hair. They join the shriners, went bowling, planned fishing trips. Lloyds youngest, tommy, lived with him and his stepmom but pamela stayed with her mother in nebraska and rarely visited. 19 80 sandy was 20 and in college but as always called lloyd every week. Until the date judy answered the phone. When i first called, judy told me he was away on business. I called back a few days later and she said he is in home. I thought, thats funny, hes only gone two or three days. I called the next week and he still wasnt home. I called my mom. I think my mom called judy and she said, well, the truth was she thought lloyd had ran off with another woman. She didnt think he was coming back. Days went by and then weeks. No word from their dad. At the end of the school year, tommys stepmom sent him back to nebraska to live with his birth family. It was hard. My dad, for tom and i especially, he was everything. And you thought he loved you. And now it seemed he didnt care . You know, when we first heard, i think we really believed he would be back. If he left judy, he would be back to get us. That summer has father and hired a private investigator. My grandfather would, almost every week to give me updates on, had we heard anything . The detective had been fond anything and he was following leads but nothing had come up. They heard stories. He moved to michigan. He boarded a plane and never made his connection. Even a story he was on Mount Saint Helens when interrupted. Sandy and her sister longed for answers. A phone call even. But, there was nothing. Where was their father . Whatever happened to lloyd ford . Here is a hint. Sandy didnt know the Family Secret nor did pam. Kimberly did. She knew all about it. Where lloyd went and why. Because she was there. If she revealed it, would anyone believe the chilling tales she had carried and hidden for so long . I spent my whole life waiting for the other shoe to drop. You know . And here it was. The secret slips out. Out. Make a video of yourself. Before all this happens. announcer you can quit. Call 1800quitnow for help getting free medication. Were done. What about these . Looks right. Nooo. Nooo. Quick, the quicker picker upper bounty absorbs spills like a sponge. And is 2x more absorbent so you can use less. Bounty, the quicker picker upper. Want the power of 5 serum benefits in 1 . Olay super serum activates on skin to hydrate, smooth, visibly firm, brighten, and improve texture. Its my best skin yet. Olay hi, im jason. Ive lost 228 pounds on golo. Its my be t skin yet. Changing your habits is the only way that gets you to lose the weight. And golo is the plan thats going to help you do that. Just take the first step, go to golo. Com. Norman, bad news. I never graduated from med school. 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The sisters could not know that the answer to their decades of questions might of all the complicated relationships and lloyds new family. Particularly between a mother and daughter, between judy and her daughter kimberly. Little kim, nervous, needy, desperate to be perfect. How does a little girl attempt to be perfect for her mother . She tries not to make her mad. Do things i know would make her happy. Clean the house. We all worked in the yard. Everything had to be just so. So it looked nice when somebody came over. So it looked normal. And if it did, the love could be so good, so warm and happy, if only the furies could be kept at bay. You learned to read her moods . Oh, yeah. If she was not in a good mood, we stayed gone. Stayed out of her way. Because . You didnt want to see her upset. Thats who the women children knew so intimately. Not the judy who presented herself one way or the other to the outside world. She was different for everybody. To a newcomer or her friends, she is very loving, giving. What they did not see was she would do what it took to get what she wanted. You saw this happening when you were a little kid . She knows what she needs to say. I should laugh here. Maybe i should cry. Watching this said kim, she knew well that love one moment to the next could be given or withdrawn. She was the one we feared. Did as you were told. If she wanted you to do something, and you didnt do it . Oh, no, we did not do that. Never. Didnt want to rock the boat. I was so afraid she would leave. It was abandonment kim feared when her mother brought men home. She was all i had. Because it was changing all the time . These men would come into her life and then go again. You had her. Right. Judy stayed put. It was lloyd who was not be sticking around. After her husband seem to disappear, judy filed for divorce. When lloyd did not show up at the hearing, judy got everything. Kim remembers a rainy afternoon when her mother pawned off their wedding ring. She remarried. A man named tom. Life went on. A quartercentury past. By 2007, kim was 40. Single mother two teenagers of her own. Still held in her mothers emotional web. Unspoken guilt increasingly clouded her mood, even at work. This was her boss, gary. What did she seem like to you . It seemed she was carrying something deep down inside her. Some baggage. I couldnt put my finger on it. Gary had, what would you call it . Antenna for these things. He had called me to have coffee with him. He could read me really well. He was like, whats wrong . I fell apart. Told him the whole thing . And thats how the Family Secret contained for more than 20 years was leaked for the first time to an outsider who listened and Something Like disbelief. Everybody has a secret or two, but this . I deliberated for days before telling anybody. You decided not to keep a secret. Correct. The way i was raised i needed to do the right thing. Gary call the Prosecutors Office which called the Police Department which opened an investigation into lloyds long ago departure. A 27yearold Disappearance Comic is they never knew existed. They certainly did now. That is how, one day, the cops showed up on kims doorstep. I spent my whole life waiting for the other shoe to drop. You know . Here it was. Kimberlys secret was out. What really happened to lloyd . She says, how would you like it if lloyd was gone . Im thinking there is no way she would do it. T. Try air wick vibrant, with 2x more natural Essential Oils for up to 120 days of amazing fragrance per dual pack. Now thats a breath of fresh air wick. When you see what its really like when our skin touches wool. You see why we need downy free and gentle with no perfumes or dyes. It not only makes your clothes softer, it is gentle on your skin. It breathes life into your laundry. 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Helping around the house. They were in the kitchen kim says when judy looked at her and asked a very curious question. She was cooking dinner, and she says, how would you like it if lloyd was gone . Gone to a 12yearold. Divorcing. Moving out. What would you think . It sounded all right. Kim was used to judys uneven love life. Divorce didnt sound like disaster. She loved having her mother to herself. Here is kims memory of what her mother said to her. Wouldnt it be nice if he wasnt here, and we could be together. You know . You guys and me, wouldnt that be nice . Just like i always wanted. Then unmistakably said kim, her idea change. It didnt sound like divorce after all. She made a list of all his faults do you remember what you said . I never questioned her. I let her talk. Safe for. And this went on . A couple days. Maybe a week. Each day it was a little more revealing until she blurted out , what would you think if he was dead . Did you think that meant i thought maybe he had cancer or was sick. And he was going to die and she was preparing you . You never know. That was not what judy had in mind, said kim. Soon it was clear what she did intend. When she said, what if i killed him . What if i killed him. She was being so vague. Im thinking theres no way she would do it. It was so surreal. Who would do that . That was the last she said for a while . For a bit. Then she started going through scenarios. What if i smothered him . What if i slit his throat . And youre sitting there, why are you telling me this . She was 12 and desperate for mothers approval which is why she silenced the voice in her head. Asked why she was being sent to the store to buy Sleeping Pills. When you went in the air and, did you have any notion what they were for . She sent us to the store all the time. You saw her doing something with the Sleeping Pills . Crunching them up. To a powder . She watched judy prepare lloyds favorite dessert, ice cream with buttered Butters Gottsch Crossing topic. Watched lloyd devour it. Next morning, when the boys went to school, judy kept kim at home so she knew her stepfather stayed in bed, saw her mother crush more pills and lloyds coffee. In his soup, more ice cream. Later said kim she heard a racket behind the bedroom door. Lloyd was trying to get out to go to the bathroom. They had their Fishing Poles behind the door, and he had the hooks in his hands. I dont even know if he felt the pain. He was all tangled up and he was mumbling. The only thing i understood was , lloyd had said what in the hell is wrong with me . He kept falling in the wall and shes telling him hes going to be fine. You will feel better soon. Then kim says, judy turned to her and gave her another airman. I was told to go outside and get the trunk and clean it out. Did you understand . I think i was too afraid to comprehend. 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We are hours away from Michael Cohen taking the stand and former President Trump hush money trial. The lawyer had already served time in prison for his role in the alleged coverup scheme involving stormy daniels. At least 11 were killed in shootings over the mothers day shoot weekend. It took place of florida, alabama, georgia, ohio, and massachusetts. No arrests were made. Judy had spiked her husbands ice cream with the Sleeping Pills she welcome back to dateline. Im andrea ercanning. Judy had spiked her husbands ice cream with the Sleeping Pill she had her daughter buy. What happened next was something kim would fight to bury deep for the rest of her life. We now continue with the Family Secret. Kimberly, 12 years old, saw her mother standing in The Living Room in their house in boise, idaho. Behind the bedroom door, her stepfather was in a stupor, and used by the Sleeping Pills that kim said her mother had sent her to buy. Now kim heard her mother say, i am ready. She told me to go in the bedroom which i did not like because we were not allowed in there. She had been in there prior, checking on him and at some point put him on the floor, on a sheet. I really did not know exactly how she was going to do it until i walked in and saw the gun at the end of the bed. She went over and turned up the stereo really loud, and she said it would cover the noise. First, she asked me to pull the trigger. She gave you the gun . No, she was holding it. Where . And his chest. She said help me pull the trigger and i basically refused. I started screaming at he what do you want from me . What do you want me to do . She said cover my ears. And so, i put my hands on either side of her, and i closed my eyes really tight. She kept saying something. It seemed like forever and i