Analysis by Ian Kerner Updated 3:44 AM ET, Tue May 25, 2021 It's natural for couples fight sometime, and it has been even more likely over the past year. is a licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and contributor on the topic of relationships for CNN. His most recent book is a guide for couples, "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex." (CNN)I often wish I could hang a sign outside my now virtual office that reads, "Leave your guns at the door." Not unlike a saloon owner in the Old West, I want the couples I see to take a breath and view the space as neutral territory. Of course, that was difficult for many of us even in "normal" times — and the pandemic has only made things worse.