i'm skin that i want that tags. and in the end is a me, you are not locked up to you anymore. we will send you back her. are you familiar with this with the smugglers reliance of the what's your story with. ready women, especially a victims of vine and seen a lot of them take part and send us your story. we are trying always to understand this new culture. so you are not a visitor, not the guests. you want to become a citizen. in phil migrants, your platform for reliable information ah new and love. oh we love each other woburn. oh, so and engaged. so when's the wedding waiter will get married later. tech lashona mon and lars novak or a couple of with down syndrome. their group home holds regular discussions about love and sex because at this facility in northern germany, they believe people with disabilities also deserved to experience physical and emotional intimacy. oh, ah, at around $230.00 most afternoons. tech lashona mon sets off law where she headington goes after over there. yeah. up to pick him up. then i'll come back here and do what? gathering coffee tech law is on her way to a nearby building where her partner lars, takes part in a seniors group. both tickler and lars are in their mid fifty's and no longer work . they live in a group home for people with intellectual disabilities operated by the non profit organization labeled hefa. in many such facilities, they wouldn't be able to live as a couple. but here that's not a problem. it's just normal. and we're engaged too old for 20 years already. well, 20 years. we've been engaged. i . they've known each other since they were kids. no, no, that's right. i can or of we to her and me is to think of adam and eve. if they were also appeared more always together. exactly. we can't be apart and has one of them ever gone away? no, no. neither of us. not even for a few days. no were always together. lisay here up the stairs. from tech la caused lars lars. he folks here think they're a dream couple that they ever argued. no, we haven't gone, never has good. we don't fight and never have some folks do, but not us. we stick together now. that's right. oh oh. oh yeah. constantine clues lives in the room next to lars. the 32 year old has been disabled since he was run over by a car as a child. he's single but looking for a girlfriend and hopes to find one very soon. whoa, when it comes to women. yeah. i, there's not just the one in like the claim and all those sappy movies. there are millions of right. why does it the girl? so if you don't get you on for me, there's always another for the world's ball of women golf of birth. oh, oh, most of them don't want me me. why no. ha! die don't know safely. he wouldn't. they don't want madly. here i'd like to have a girl random that's why he frequence an online dating portal for people with disabilities. now he's writing to katie. you who she are 2 years older than me or that's okay. cool. oh ha. gun katie's really freddy caught, he konstantin says that sometimes he gets really lonely but he enjoys his creature comforts and the company of the people he lives with. oh, in other facilities, constantine might not be encouraged to express his wishes so openly. but here residents love lives are just treated as part of their normal lives. people with disabilities should be free to choose for themselves what they want and what they don't say. ploy on cooney and tossed and maya hunker, i don't always know it did. i mention every person, once relationships and that mean every one desires closeness, the stick. i think that's part of every human banishment disabled or not only even mentioned to him, letting others decide who their friends are. oh, they're partnered with liberty and how they express their sexuality. that would be too great an intrusion into the personal rights of the people who live here. mr. berman, he wants him. almost all the residents here have a legal guardian. so they're not allowed to make decisions regarding their finances, health or place of residence, all on their own. if the parents are the relatives or court appointed guardians have the last word. but often they also want to have a say where relationships are concerned. as educator, jessica, shine hoisin knows all too well as of it's not as if they forbid it, but they're not exactly thrilled when it happens. in rare cases, i've experienced this in all its facets, and then it goes like this. and i, it's nice when they have a girlfriend or boyfriend and it's fine for them to hold hands or kiss or whatever tension high. but as soon as things go further than that, as soon as they want to spend the night together and maybe really become sexually active, then that's the limit dawson had off mackenzie by home of and before who, who realised that so? sure. before what fears did they have them? what negative consequences do they see and to people growing closer here at home? and how can we allay those fears from him? and how can we support the people who live here so that maybe they can even conduct such discussions without needing us as moderators from cram ripple throng? no, dear legal guardian currently under whose blanket i fall asleep to night is none of your can turn america's hoard armed lunch ruffled. that doesn't mean the organization isn't involved at all. as are these, it's only alliance we're left and it's not as if we leave them on their own and say, okay, we'll leave you to it in the off of your experiences. and if they're bad ones, that's your problem. one, we want to assist them k before and so they can find people with whom they'll be happy and get along on the didn't exactly somebody that would live in chron with lars and fiance tech love. that approach seems to have worked out well. oh oh, that's okay. it's not so bad the couple spend almost all their time together. they care for and take care of one another. yet they each want to have their own rooms side by side. and they regularly go on holiday together to the north sea for instance lava there. we slept together. luggage rob. here by the 2 of us. oh, it was good, but we broke the bad. ha. give bet. you got your vada. i ya, the bed collapse to offer. oh, glad ha. lisay your good opinion. good, done then to day i'd like to talk to you about the genital of men and women, and stuff on my own. how? that's the part down here. right? you can touch it. what comes with who to hinson mans, group on sex and love meets once a month gone. here they discuss sexuality openly. no question is taboo. coming up, for instance, how do you masturbate properly? because if residents are to take control of their own sex lives, they need to be able to make informed choices. this group is one of the living facilities most popular ones that would attain is he like rude when blood flows in? it stands up. oh, i think honey seen before him? oh, annette. up in real life. huh? oh, yes, i have seen one it did. okay, we did a strip tease, strip tease, you know what that is if stripped is. oh, it was glen. oh, nice of it. rubber of a wall and you know why bother? you know, before we used to throw them in bed room and we did it then as long as those were the days removed. yeah, that's true. yeoman's stuff. every one can sleep where they want to run as long as the host is in agreement to on and 1st, unless it isn't something that we negotiate in the office or a common road or in them, but something they negotiate amongst themselves and on the north. but residents also need to learn how to say no or to seek help before lines are crossed. here affairs of the heart shouldn't hurt any one. 0, one of her them why people always associate the heart with love. i don't know. the name for the heart is a muscular pump. look, a hollow muscle that pumps it up. oh, that's right konstantin. but when it comes to his own affairs of the heart, constantine is more sanguine. he's hoping for his 1st real date. no new messages. unfortunately, look, the last one is from the 10th of november, and there's nothing since the other messages all arrived before then. but last time, this is what she wrote here. you can read it yourself, of them. i hi home, my constantine in me. how are you in? 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