forms of time with the dimension and illusion. about time storage december 31st on d, w. ah, russia, the largest country on earth font since the fall of the soviet union, its population has declined by 5000000 men here have one of the lowest life expectancies in europe. alcohol, drugs and tobacco are all too often to blame. leading to a clear agenda in balance, women make up the majority of the population, 50 full percent, placing them under even greater pressure to marry and have children as a young age senior is marrying her partner carol in a traditional christian orthodox ceremony. his views can only be described as conservative. jessica, who is in the corner according to our tradition. so men are both physically and intellectually superior to women rich dylan were. the patriarchal attitude is also embodied by president vladimir putin. his carefully staged media events promote a return to tradition and conventional notions of masculinity. many russian women are paying a high price. 60 percent of marriages here end in divorce, leaving many children to grow up without a father. domestic violence is rampant. it's estimated that a woman dies at the hands of her partner, every 40 minutes here, and the state sites with the perpetrators. an alarming number of domestic violence cases go unpunished. in moscow and st. petersburg, a small minority of young people, a starting to rebel against patriarchy, and called for greater sexual freedom. and yet, most russian, women still lead a life marked my personal and social restrictions. in the largest country in the world, love and sex are still dominated by patriarchy. the seriana family is reminiscing about one of the most emotional moments of their lives. president vladimir putin, publicly on them for their dedication. ah, did you my is green, yellow or junior? there was no stanley, he should know me or i did just use little. you're more than just bernoulli junior has what me. she was measurements, go to register on the lowest. i'm also going to have less than only fillum, the national officer groom. i am so happy with the syrian off, sa considered a model family as a married couple with many children. they represent the ideal in a nation, grappling with demographic change, their way to brazil, i'll attach it just like, put in the dark. within walking on. we lovely, grassy. when would you? is it a got there, a couples who lost themselves if it's even worth having children, a story mistook more may be how example will encourage them to go for it. was we bullshit. proteins, model, family lives, 1300 kilometers east of moscow into a working class city of about 1000000 for the past 15 years. they've called this high rise home. i'm to eat, didn't all go 5 daughters, 2 sons, such large families are the exception in russia, where most women only have one child. for the government, there are a welcome sight right here. go ahead, help you. so do you on saturday, a part number? yeah. do not whenever al son comes back from military service every 2 weeks. we go all out on the last. we spoiled him so he doesn't forget is the whole bowers. he's a lot of them were peggy, larissa is a home maker. i knew we death bottle youngest, but i wait till everyone's finished, then i can eat and pays but out as otherwise i have to get up and fix this and that the whole time is to put in. you see that he acts like he's just a guest. here we go. new. the new kitchen isn't my thing. yeah. wow. alexei is a chauffeur. he owns the equivalent of $800.00 euros a month, just above average here. they're $55.00 square. meta apartment is a bit cramped for a family of 9. what did not have gone the, this is our living room and bedroom, my wife and i sleep here, tanya and natasha. here. go towards the broker in the winter. i go to school by myself. gar. what it is is the girls room where nastier masha and katya sleep nicer. marsha, ye, garcia. he is the boy's room. the one i was going to please let him hear you and this is victo, didn't as my lord this victor, alexei and larissa got married back in soviet days when they were 22. contraceptives were hard to come by back then. some that you're so young here, but strong. no, yes, strong. that is some people made fun of us. we should, they said stop. you just made yourselves miserable, but it was none of their business when yellow knew we never planned on having so many kids knew. so we just love each other so much in the soviet era, large families were frowned upon and were usually among the poorest. today, the state rewards large families with a bonus equivalent to about 6200 euros for the birth of each child. after the 1st, that's about a year's salary here. xenia and korea live in gotcha a town about 40 kilometers from st. petersburg. they live in a typical middle class neighborhood in an apartment that they own. he's a cook. she's a hair dresser. they met 3 years ago. what do we want for dinner professionally? no idea. so i'll just have to come up with something again, we'll just show that if like what, we don't really talk it over here. mostly i do it because i am a cook or feature. he cooks so quickly and it's always delicious for fortner. well, you know, i sometimes ask her to cook well, reasonable women shouldn't forget how to make boot a few sure. xenia and carol were married in a civil ceremony last week. that church wedding is taking place to morrow. the big event? sheila was what luke? i saw susanna as wedding ring, a silver mine is gold, which symbolizes the sun. the man should shine, and the woman represents balance. and the night lord, carroll and casino, like 75 percent of russians are christian orthodox. they place a high value on tradition. and carol is the quintessential macho russian man. for them, we're husband is very hungry. the weather, let's pick a show 1st then we can eat with richard dylan. women are deep thinkers, google museum wellness family. it's only natural that we're head of the household. recently. no, nino, as well as 100. if i ever actually disagree with him, i didn't know that which is a pretty unlikely thought out. look at, he'll have the last word to look it up as leading us low with the political visited, with men, have to deal with difficult things like buying an apartment. when you are, a woman might be able to do it, but not with as much confidence. just wanted, bless you, she'd have a hard time with the negotiation really worth soccer. carol's, sexist views, don't really seem to bother senior, according to russian tradition. she'll spend the night before the wedding away from her groom. see you in the morning. but i was out for the week. i'll miss you. miss you take that old spirit. seniors booked a room in a hotel. she won't see her husband again till the morning. it's 8 in the morning and the big day is about to begin. oh but good morning. this is all the stylish was i've arrived. irina, the hairdresser has already been married twice when she gives the young bride a few tips. raska, how are things good when are you guys happy then no stress, right? yeah, thank you now and then you hush there being understanding each other as important as a woman, you have to be patient. so positions and there's no good. so you should know that a lot of men cheat them hands. it's better to say single. you'll see what i'm talking about. the majority of russian men admit to being unfaithful. oh, here comes the handsome guy. hello, gorgeous. oh . the ceremony is taking place in this early 20th century. wooden charge. an orthodox priest will greet the couple and then perform the ceremony. you receive, but when you take xenia as your wife is immune, i do really know when you take care of your husband, we should do racing will give you a new yeah. when the priest places the crowns on their heads, they are officially married. king and queen of their household. oh, the fall of communism, brought religion back to everyday life. russians rediscovered their faith and the church sought to establish itself as a moral authority. a villa will be the most faithful people. those who pray devoutly better able to cope with life challenges and resist the devil's temptation. they also have a positive demographic impact, margaret believe is more likely to have children issue. boy, should you need. most couples in russia have a church wedding. the senior and carols reception is at a hotel with friends and family. the celebration will also include a few time honored tradition. ah, ah, a round of applause for the couple graduation. the traditional bread ritual is a must be a good grab the bread. if one of you pulls harder than the other. it's unfair. go. if you ever gets the bigger piece is head of the household. okay, so 123, yes, movie, xenia. you must be gentle and loving your the more weight faithfully for your husband, or is it that make your home a sweet place to make sure your husband comes home? id. jeffrey and of course have children. many children with plenty men and women in russia share these traditional views. but reality tells a different story about 60 percent of marriages end in divorce, one of the highest rates in the world. the city of a van avo about 300 kilometers east of moscow is no exception. in fact, yvonne novo is often called the city of brides. the majority of its residence are women. many are single mothers elena started her day at 4 30 in the morning. she shares the bathroom with the other tenants. she lives in this room with her 2 children, 5 year old dasher and one year old vasily in time to wake up. sweetheart. do do not a tough one. a 3rd of russian families are headed by a single mother. neither do you want to provide him with this is this couch is where we sleep. i lay and eat you all. that's why i have to make the bed now, but it's just the ditch dark gush. did you come on darcia put on your dresser. it ought to be handy wash. eleanor leaves home at 6 o'clock. she gets her daughter to preschool before going to work. it's a one hour walk through yvonne of o's, dim and deserted streets, and it was good. so then if i could never have imagined this thing all alone with 2 children, made me or not, i wanted to study and teach english. she, i passed my university entrance exams, then i met my daughter's father thought it was a true love all that, but he complained that i was spending too much time studying. he gave me an ultimatum, so i could choose him or the university. i chose him though, a rubric for long thus no problem. this decision changed to elena's life. her fiance left her soon after she became pregnant with her daughter. she never heard from him again. the 52nd partner never acknowledged vasily as his son. since then she's been on her own would have liked him to was mustache. can you much, tasha and i mean i have to go on your smell now it's really hard. i also had to raise 3 kids on my own. oh man and oh good. they don't want to take care of their own kids to move to new which bus, if it's late. oh, good. see les sasha, aka? it is $730.00. by the time alina arrives at work, she works in a daycare center where she can bring her son with her. off the mothers at this day can are single parents. oh, come on, your mom is going to work quite well in the camps at the window and waved. good bye mother. don't quote it's weighed. oh, shes not. i. and $16000.00 roubles a month, you pay for day care, food and rent. yes. cuz i'm always afraid that my electricity will be cut off. all the children's fathers don't contribute. no, nothing they. but i don't ask them either. when you have a brush, why? mister? when i told them i was pregnant, they said it was my problem. so i hope you will be a 3rd of russian. children grow up without their father's. i'm going to eat you little that i'm the woof ah, after lunch a group of single mothers gather in the daycare kitchen. much kuchma says hello, how with the children with michelle katerina runs the daycare, unfaithful and absent men. often a topic of conversation here. what does it do? what i've been raising my kids on my own for 4 years. when i got pregnant, he started going out all the time, drinking more and more for chooses to sure everything went well when the little one was the young fellow. but when my husband realised that he shared responsibility and had to pitch in to be of he left go at 7 in the evening, alina finishes work and picks up her daughter from preschool. mm. to night, she's visiting her recently divorced friend, lina. hello, hello. the 2 young women have no illusions any more when it comes to relationships and romance. what nickerson and local motion is, i missed when i need a man for every day. thank you to come around with the tool box and fixed staff osgood though it would be nice that you those you but the but i don't believe in romantic love any more. yeah. any launch the, what is the family boy? will shaneka go or she, it's better to be alone than in bad company. hold snivla's than you did. and then we of course, i'd like to find someone he'd give me gift and help out with the kids and, but i have given up hope in the young has no question. what about sex and romance to say no, i'm an amazon woman. these women in yvonne of a happy let down by love, but the demographic imbalance that is played russia for the past 30 years is also to blame. there's a shortage of men and that has an impact. many russian women have no choice but to look the love elsewhere. every year, thousands leave for europe or the united states. some moved to remote corners of russia, like the city of e coots inside barea, about 5000 kilometers from moscow. ah, not far from the chinese border. it's ethnically diverse. i aliya is a native ore the ear, coots, williamson, diane learning 2 and a half hours by plane from the chinese border and 5 owls from the capital convention. being so close to china helps us economically, as i said, that at that must be a blank item that they put on for aaliyah life here has another benefit. she's found a reliable and faithful husband here. and here's the chance we did. a boyish of, of that, you're more likely to find a husband in a border region with lots of migration. now not, we don't only have chinese here, but also koreans reacts and mongolians one only. there are lots of mixed marriages here. and then i me as in sam and washington, she lives in his upscale neighborhood with her husband and 3 children. june is of chinese origin. did you take your vitamins darling? yes. was of no will take them. aaliyah's husband who runs an import export business has given his family a comfortable life. they have a large attractive house and each child has their own bedroom. aaliyah and june met 20 years ago at university in ear, coots. before the wedding alea had to win over her parents. in russia. interracial couples are rare and often discriminated against her. racism has deep roots. here it is less ah, ah, when i sir. jesse, is it okay if i talk about this vehicle is a good year. my mother in law cut out an article from a newspaper. but also, like i said, there are many chinese who come here to marry russia because i asked you, but almost, even though they're already married back in china, those are those questions. and then they go back to china. we either either got a little tourney, give them cookie, of that. there was a book on what that was mckesson, i do it for the russians citizenship or to get the documents that need to set up a business that the list. yeah. but for you, so i took out my passport to show them i was single, single magazine hospital from now. yeah. nat. those are the main problem is that chinese men work a lot. yes. can you push it in the evening? they go to restaurants to do business not to eat me is i did you love this that i she kept calling me, i'm why, but my newborn, i told him come home, i need your help come handled. but she moved it. that's why are you hanging out at a restaurant on the linebacker ever herself? they love music. we haven't. okay. i used to say what goes out about, okay, do you want me to be a russian man or them bring home $50000.00 roubles? and that's it. because you're going, but lisa, michael should have ms. anna, but you know, she finally understood that i was there for business. not dinner of my gosh, you'd all done with me, but your m ah, since our marriage aaliyah's also become a business woman. she runs a chinese restaurant in the center of air coots. you'll want to do a lot of media and just leave the chairs back and it will be fine. you what? yes, really. she manages some 20 russian and chinese employees. so my, this is our head share. he makes traditional dishes from his province in northern china by them, but they didn't die. the restaurant is a 2nd home to their children and their russian nanny. her husband also has his business dinners here, a large family with a faithful husband who earns well here in russia. it's the exception rather than the rule see deal. it's just like every go dreams of meeting. have prince charming and i found mine. he's my friend yet. um typically went and she's my princess aliya and june's 4th baby is due soon despite the prejudices of russian society, aaliyah found the man of her dreams. some other young russians of flouting conventions more directly. mm. on an overnight train from moscow to some petersburg, a young couple wakes up after a night of passion. ah, should i try your hair back? no. and saul is a blogger, and belkora is a security guard. they've been together for a year. with you're still tired. mm . hm, their family would not be complete without a 3rd person. arena a she so tall and takes care of us, like a mother, by them. and soul, and belkin a not a couple, but a troppo. they live a 3 way romantic relationship and described themselves as poly amorous. poly amorous relationships are a tiny minority in russia and around the world. and so lives in an apartment in the heart of st. petersburg. no. when so of course you've got, oh yeah, i've lived here my whole life with alicia coke. now. the 100 square meter apartment has enough space for 3 of them. and so shares this room with arena palka hasn't moved in yet. i wish her yes. blue passivity knew i sleep in the middle book of business sleeps against the wall and milk asleep on the edge of po book, our relationship is like a triangle where all connected to each other will come in. thus, if i melt when they kiss, because it's so beautiful via both windows, we make love in lots of different ways. circling us. we're, we're going can answer for july and you, does anyone have yes, i have sex with this woman. they have me and i have them another person lives here to very earth. yeah, i i'm home though. diana finally, i'm so happy to see give me a hug of the mileage you did of law and souls. mother elena is in her early sixty's . now. she knows about his poly amorous relationship. we had, god never have imagined this in your little when i couldn't have imagined it either . when we see up sure, where an ordinary working class family may be. this is his way of rebelling this, you know, my rebellious days are behind me like yells can't last forever. oh yes, it can back. you must know. it's not possible for 3 people to spend the whole lives together. new people can't manage it, but 3 can. i live in you, you know, i didn't think so. i'm just waiting for it all to fall apart. but then you say i told you so exactly unsold. belk i and irina don't shy away from public displays of affection. but homosexuality is frowned upon in russia. and assaults are commonplace in 2013, so called homosexual propaganda in front of miners became a punishable offense. what can i get you guys? money and fame? just was it on dakota? we live how we like them and no one can stop us. we, it's our choice to make the go. could you notice for yeah, interesting. i'm not afraid of being attacked, which other people are afraid of me by as they organize monthly me tops to talk about polyamory. the owner of their favorite cafe has no problem with their lifestyle over them with the dish dish. i have no problem with polyamory in english, and she just their choices, local musical they know they belong to a tiny minority, e s l e. you wish to see it but said 87 percent of russians are pretty mainstream. young. wow. and vote for potent advantage. listen to now this russian society is still very conservative. but some of moscow's educated and privileged young people are fighting for more freedom and shattering old to boost like tanya, a manager of an event planning agency and grip a graphic designer than meeting their friends in a trendy bar to night. would i be been here while they talk openly about sacks, when people do well, i think you didn't sleep at all. yeah. little thorough. 5 hours. then we had sex again that you know, you, you like the soviet union may be long gone, but russia is still quite prudish. tanya and her friends are an exception. a few years ago tanya launched a new event with a agency. she began organizing what she calls kinky parties here and moscow. the moscow times has called it the start of his sexual revolution. a big kinky party is taking place in a few days. an event that created quite the boughs among moscow's young trendsetters. mm. the night before the big event grisham pays tanya. a visit. they've been together for a year. unlike most russian couples, they don't plan to move in together or get married. she said, tanya, a business woman wants to remain independent, but them was so well. yeah, i'm not really and i deal russian woman to this. i had a phase when i tried to cook traditional dishes like blushed. nora. yup. and you, i said that i realized pretty quickly that wasn't for me. jen, how do you cope with not having an ideal traditional russian women are the you know who the fuck it doesn't get better than these frozen dinners. 66 percent of russian women walk outside the home. so tanya is no exception. grisham, on the other hand, is no ordinary russian man. what do they look on this? yeah, sure. oh no, i'm not some macho guy. you. i was raised by strong women and studied in canada, where i became aware of issues like patriarchy, unlike most russian men, was little foster. ah young, who with her father krisha called tanya, something special for the party to morrow. nicholas, i bought you something in the me. yes, but i lay ash try it on i don't have a white collar yet. he doesn't the de la good. no no yes. procedures. which oftentimes eager we live out of fantasy and give each other pleasure. cooked with exquisite alyssa said sir, mother, she's shy. but she loves me very much. i love her very much to the leo which was in with it's tanya's big day. the monthly kinky party starts in just a few hours but yeah, as the last piece give us the why are they sending me the list that the last minute? sure there shall be between 750 and 800 people back. it's the most people we've ever had at the kinky policy until x must come here. would you the political go to what us the party will take place in a rented loft in moscow's business district. the program will include erotic shows, a dance floor and small private corners for couples, with tickets costing the equivalent of 80 euros. this party is only for the wealthy wall. i'm grandma, can we pull that to parts a little bit more voice and it's all wrinkled in. so i'd be afraid to hang on to that. are you sure it's secure? sure. it doesn't matter if the guests are poly, amorous, heterosexual or homosexual. the polity attracts young people from moscow and beyond . any one who's happy to flout rushes, strict traditions come on. here's the s and m area with the latex beds. this is our hospital where you can play out or your medical fetish fantasies there with me. yes or so, and i'm not a lot of this is much better to me. you can chill on the balcony, numbered to this message. someone with one of them doesn't. okay. we're open the event is completely legal bought. there are strict rules, no photos, and each new participant must be interviewed beforehand on skype. the security measures are designed to keep out extremists and prevent sexual blackmail. but if this show is like a homage to love, oh, it's great. these events help us liberate ourselves and feel good for you. but i wonder if they'll actually change anything in russian society. it's primarily the privilege to enjoy these evenings of freedom elsewhere. many russian women, a still bound by patriarchy, and off, become victims of violence. ah, a russian proverb says that if your husband beats you, it's only because he loves you. many men have taken these words to heart when ah irina petra cova is a survivor? ah! vestibule will visual stay here for tomorrow you have school. do you have a lot of homework labs? ah. oh, down if you oh, the motion of flesh upgrades. yeah. you know, play, i'll tie up the dog, sit. okay. the shape, i think the dog is here to protect is a ppo provider. oh, god forbid, something should happen to us in it, but she had been problems with my ex husband about border after we moved out. he spoke to a 2 user. no drive or is dog when i realized that the police wouldn't help me, but it's an employee. i think it is for years arena suffered violence at the hand of her husband, even the in front of her children. her son was 5 when she called it quits mit i can you i still remember how we were going to leave. ah, ah, died in my memory. i chose the best he hit my mother. he wanted the keys to our new apartment. the latter and i were in our beds and heard everything. not sure irina and her children have already moved 4 times to escape the violent acts to day they live in this 20 square meter apartment this much much could he have mass i'm work. oh gee. and russian, when no flames, much quickened in math. everything seemed fine in 2000. and 6, irina and alexi had been together 3 years before they married. but when irina was 5 months pregnant, he beat her for the 1st time. after that had happened regularly, she endured the violence for 6 years. this young don martin, look at the big bruised on my face. jack scott took darrell so old a bruised is on my neck. mia? i managed to escape to the neighbors just in time. i see a figure shop and then i called the police. the neighbors didn't want to get involved a promotional doctor's found lesions, bruises and a concussion. but even this evidence wasn't enough to convince the police irina filed a complaint 8 times to no avail. when her husband began beating the children, she decided to leave. she's been divorced since 2016. alexei was never brought to justice. said russia machine, your possessions. believe if he beats you, he loves you. i have chosen to condemn me in that the husband can just do whatever he wants to try are women a worthless. but he was supposed to be subservient jason dawson, but she had some news in russia, perpetrators like irina as husband, a rally, prosecuted in 2017. the russian parliament passed a law de criminalizing domestic violence. only acts of violence resulting in hospitalization are considered a crime. in vladimir putin's ruling party, only m p. oksana pushed kenna opposed the new law. does the schizophrenia come with the glass? yes, it's a tragedy. it. the law allows men to beat their why biting, fucked each yet. now all they have to do is pay a fine at me, which has taken out of their joint account as the vote. i think the women think a 100 times before they report anything to the police, but don't wish to leave. let the meaning is even edge by leads. members of the orthodox church often attack her for her views. what they keep is huntley hoarded, bus thorpe, us lippy. disarmament gets up to $150.00 letters like this each day. i'm a bush can lose, came in here to pull that amount that i be removed from the committee. and applegate with on william. now it scares me to think way. we as a nation are heading. yeah. you got you. oh ok. santa pushkin, a remains determined to fight discrimination against women. in from moscow, we had back to fire in the southern urals, victims of domestic violence throughout russia. visit this to to studio. they hope to heal the scars left by past relationships. hi, why should i go? you can sit here. today's client is a woman who survived brutal violence. what's your name? goodness. show me. ah, what didn't this voice was established eva did to the surgical scar if you say, had to cut me open to clean out the inside cover just in i bled alarm and my blood pressure dropped to 50 over 35. i was dying. i did it boosted and my husband, if she doesn't live pasha will cover her scars with her to, to go nass has chosen as 7 peddled rose as a symbol of renewal and hope i'm sure will hide the scars with pedals. you can still see areas of scar tissue, but we'll work with them. as a j genie towel tina on which now even better to studio belongs to gina. she came up with his project to help survivors of domestic abuse. she has 300 photos of these women on her phone. they've all suffered similar fates. i would read the vicar would feel he is beaca who was tied to a tree, xhylia nichol. i became in that she was pregnant and someone told her husband that it wasn't his child, i even should am on the cell. don't get in the evening who went with a friend and picked her up from work is out. they ties her to a tree and tortured her with the night, trying to make her confess who the father was, especially a cheery bonacre's scheduled us. there was a cruelly barbara covered up her scar with a beautiful butterfly. first of them press your boots, minutes above it. the 2 session also serves as a kind of therapy girl nast, talks about watch experienced, while her scars disappear beneath the inc. dinner on that on my husband, came back from work drunk as usual zone. he grabbed a knife and said on good is i'm going to kill you. was it when he stabbed me? i didn't even realize it. at 1st. i pulled the knife out myself. i fear for my will with the showman. just some idea. but the goal here is not only to help women process their experiences with race, it's also to show them that not all men are monsters you shoot me fearful. ready guess you just a few hours later go nass can admire her new tattoo show me a shout. i'll know more scott: it's the beginning of a new life for me. when i look in the mirror, i wouldn't have to think about the terrible things that happened with a bye. thank you to crockett. does this mean as long as pu tins, antiquated notions, that the model russian family and his demographic policies continue to receive popular support? women like coolness will have to fear for their safety. with shift your guide to life in the digital world. explore the latest online trends. navigate your way through the digital jungle. get a global perspective. we'll be your guide and show you what's possible. you decide what really matters to you. shift in 15 minutes on d w. d 2, you know that 77 percent of uh, a younger than 35. that's me. and me and you and you know what? 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