today yours really begins. >> reporter: harvey was sentenced to life without parole. after which his now ex-wife, debbie, invited us down to the pier where she took harvey's fake engagement ring and the other costume jewelry he'd given her and -- >> i threw them into the water as a tribute to steven. >> reporter: and his friends? >> steven was part of my family. he's part of the family you get to pick. i can open a great bottle of wine and sit there and think about steven. the pain fades. the memories are sustained. and that's the part that, you know, that i'll just keep with me forever. >> the only way that i can kind of deal with it is i knew that he was eventually going to get on a boat and sail around the world. so i just kind of think of him out there, you know? he's out there somewhere. >> reporter: out there like the