person either. >> the foleys were married in 1994, and right from the start, dar took the lead. fair to say she wore the pants in that house? >> i'd say probably 75%, 80% of the time she did. >> she was the breadwinner? >> yes. >> you stayed home and took care of your son? >> i did. >> heath was tom and dar's only child and the center of their lives. >> and we just loved being together. we were always together. >> and so the three foleys lived on the outskirts of coldwater in an old farmhouse they called the heath bar farm. a picture perfect family until that winter day back in 2009. what was the last thing you said to her? >> i said, i love you, and i'll see you later. >> on that day, the foleys were preparing to celebrate heath's tenth birthday at a friend's house just down the road. dar still needed to shower, so tom, heath and a friend of