her access to the bank accounts, put her on a cash allowance. >> i recall a time she was in the car with me and she called him and said i've got $2 and we don't have any diapers. >> nancy couldn't get a job. she had no green card. she began painting a friend's house to earn some extra money. when she did, brad reduced her allowance. she must have been furious at him. >> furious would be on understatement. >> she's very proud and she'd feel guilty. i'm not going to take your money. no, this isn't your job to support me and my kids. >> nancy began locking important papers, including the girls' passports in her car. >> in february of '08, and it was awful. i had never seen nancy stressed out before. i had never seen her raise her voice in the house, and she was just miserable. >> miserable, stressed. each day uncertain. a painful struggle. an angry contest. >> she said this is just, i think, a game to show me how difficult it's going to be. it's his attempt to force me back into this relationship. >> then, as nancy was preparing to move back to canada and with brad's blessing take the girls, one of those moments on which lives can turn. the arrival from nancy's lawyer of a proposed separation agreement. alimony, child support, private schools for the girls, brad would have to travel to canada for his twice monthly visits.