chuck room. >> reporter: she told friends and family he had a temper, a controlling way. once back in 1996 she called her sister-in-law from a closet, terrified. >> he had the gun outside the closet and she was inside, hiding. >> reporter: what did you hear about that? >> he was out there with a pump gun, i guess, and he was racking the pump action up and down and telling her to come out. >> reporter: cal later denied it was true that he had been fighting or threatening michele with a gun. then in 1999, michele learned cal was having an affair. she was devastated, but not ready to end the marriage. and cal said he wasn't either. >> michele said we can work through this, but, you know, you've got to get rid of the girl. she worked up at one of the dealerships. >> reporter: they did what they could to salvage the marriage. it didn't work. she told her family he cut off her spending money. she took up with a young man in november 2000. a month later she told cal she