about today, but he's such a loving kid. i refer to him as kid that will kiss you on the cheek and pinch you on the tail at the same time. >> cute. you know, you've got four kids. you have a lot going on, and necessariens for so many years you've had to be a single mom. >> right. >> because of this guy. >> i know. >> star of the boston red sox, out there doing his thing, earning a living for the family, but he would pop in periodically which was hard for you, right? what did you think when shonda is saying, guess what, we've got a son, grant's got asperger's. >> my initial thought was, okay, now what? i mean, i've always been someone who kind of approaches life head on. i don't ever -- i don't fret. i don't worry about things. i don't get caught up in things. i'm always looking for how can i win and how can we succeed, and this is just another speed bump, road bump so to speak, having the house be literally be a pit stop for the first 14 years of our kids' lives for me, getting towards the end of my career. there was a lot of change